Continuation Beginning: https://www.b17.ru/article/278586/So, let’s assume that the young man/girl went through the previous age-related crises harmoniously, and their attitude to conflicts is quite adequate to their age, and The methods for solving them are quite diverse and, if desired, lead to cooperation. He/she has already resolved issues with separation and is able to combine affection and independence, and an attitude towards competition helps to find one’s place in society and gain recognition. But now an internal conflict may arise between social assessment and self-esteem. This conflict often becomes insoluble and causes tension: either a person goes to extremes, is overly focused on someone else’s assessment, looks for it, or, on the contrary, tries to ignore it and thus avoids full-fledged relationships. Probably fifty percent of clients who come have this internal conflict. which underlies other psychological problems. Of course, a person depends on someone else’s assessment, since this is the main guideline for a person - how adequately he takes his place, how much he has the right to occupy it. We must understand that social assessment is multidimensional, and consists not only of the opinion of one person. And this multidimensionality is also dialectical. You can be a great subordinate and a terrible boss at the same time. You can be respected among colleagues, but unclaimed by clients. And so on. And here, you cannot do without your own ability to self-esteem, otherwise you can get confused and confused. As they say, it is impossible to please everyone. A person has to prioritize numerous social assessments and, according to his own criteria, determine which of these assessments is more important and which is insignificant. But this will not be able to give a complete picture if a person is not able to assess the significance of his actions and the results of these actions. That is, multidimensional social assessment and one’s own ability for self-esteem are dialectical opposites that create internal conflict. What nuances may there be: 1) Too much importance is attached to social assessment, but little importance is attached to self-esteem - such a person is often disoriented, since numerous social assessments are multidirectional. He also has the feeling that he is not living his own life. 2) An excessively small value for social assessment, an excessively large value for self-esteem. - This state of affairs is often called pride. A person puts himself above everyone, while interaction with others is often lost.3) There is too much importance for both social assessment and self-esteem - such a person can assume an inferiority complex and a compensatory orientation in his activities, a desire to prove everything to everyone and confirm his self-esteem.4) Both social assessment and self-esteem are of extremely low importance - such people, without any ambitions, live one day at a time, are unable to develop purposefully, and often become marginalized. Since a person constantly changes groups and statuses in groups throughout his life, this conflict often arises and creates tension. This means we have to constantly find ways to solve it. To be continued.