Some people postpone their lives for later: when I finish another higher education and get married; I’ll buy an apartment and only then open my own business; I’ll take a course of psychotherapy, I’ll become perfect and then I’ll start looking for a person with whom I can start a family...Recently, one client gave me an interesting metaphor regarding this phenomenon. His story went something like this: When I was young, I really wanted to play the guitar. I bought a guitar and decided to start with the fact that I needed to learn how to tune it. I began to learn how to configure it. My hearing is perfect and I strived to have my guitar tuned perfectly. I absolutely couldn’t stand falsehood and tuned the guitar not only for myself, but also for my friends. The friends were already strumming and singing with all their might. And I was setting everything up and couldn’t move on to mastering the chords. Because after a few chords the guitar had to be tuned again. 17-20 years have passed. To this day, I perfectly tune guitars for my friends and myself, but I still haven’t really learned to play. A client came to therapy with a request to start a family. And after his own metaphor, he suddenly realized that all his life he had been “tuning” himself to be an interesting person, a strong man, a good family man, attending various courses, completing various specializations. The basis of the phenomenon of “postponing life for later” is a passion for perfection and unclear goals in life. The sad news is that the world is imperfect and you are also imperfect. As long as we live, we are developing and there will always be a zone where we can develop and improve. They love not perfect people, but those who please them... Therefore, the way out of this situation will be to accept yourself and others as imperfect and clarify for yourself your life goals. All video courses by Irina Ryzhenko