So the discussion of the topic of separation has come to an end. I am sure that those who encountered it in the near future have already become stronger and are moving on in life. Today I will touch a little on the topic of “Meaning”, the topic of our 4th sphere of life, which, in my opinion, determines the overall quality of all your changes, restoration and formation of a “new taste” for relationships and men in general. In positive psychotherapy, the term “Meaning” is determined by how you listen to your intuition (and whether you hear it at all), what you believe in, and what you find and expect from the future. Probably, it is this area that helps the other three (Body, Activities, Contacts) not to stand still, but to apply everything that was described in earlier articles. What to believe in when you are left alone? How to find the meaning so that it doesn’t hurt for a long time? How to maintain faith in a relationship when there is so much resentment? There are a lot of questions, but the answers lie on the surface and are probably too simple to surprise you. But knowing does not mean accepting and applying! Secret 4 (for the soul). I believe! I'm alive! I’m changing!...and I see signs! Parting is not given to us because someone is testing us and punishing us, it happens in life, because the time has come for it and you are ready for all this. Nothing happens in your lives by chance: it has accumulated distrust - it’s time to learn to speak honestly yourself, a feeling of “uselessness” has appeared - analyze the role of your partner for yourself, maybe you use it as a function in increasing your own importance; It began to seem to you that you come across only goats and losers - it’s time to tackle family concepts and consider the basics of a family along the female line (repetitions and scenarios); “You are everything, and you are nothing” - welcome to the club of “victims” (in other words, “dependence on a man is obvious”)... etc. etc. The end of one is the beginning of another: nothing new is born on planet Earth unless something dies before it. This is a process of development and evolution. One of my teachers, Professor Pavel Lushin, perfectly describes these things in his theory of the transition period and the state of uncertainty. What is happening to you is development, although it hurts. It's a sign! Find the benefit yourself, because this is what gives you the strength to take responsibility for yourself in a relationship and not shift it to the author of the article; Parting perfectly shows the state of “interest and boredom,” important and unimportant, satisfaction and dissatisfaction of needs in a relationship. If you left, it means you lost interest in what happened earlier, you stopped getting enough and went to look for it elsewhere. If they left you, then the same thing happened to your partner. And that's okay! And it's portable! And this is reversible, if you only understand and see what has changed and who has changed, and most importantly, what everyone now wants! The biggest plus is the opportunity to see what was, what has become and how I want it to be! Friends, these are the costs of addiction a society that emphasizes the value of long-term relationships and the horror and fear of breaking up. This is a declaration of complete fusion with the Partner and the impossibility of existing without him. Stop believing what you can't! Stop believing that you have been abandoned and you are alone! You are free! Each of us can get along with another person if we want to. Each of us can learn to do a lot of things that we are afraid to do. Each of us does not have to torment ourselves and others under the illusion that “this is forever.” You have one life and a lot of impressions. I wish you to be open to new things and believe that relationships are not limiting, and changing them only brings variety and brightness. How do you know that things will get worse for you? Maybe better! There are 7 billion people on Earth and you will find new relationships and new “interests”. What do you think is the point and what to believe? Write please!