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Relationships with parents are the most important thing in children’s lives. Their quality determines the child’s attitude towards himself, towards his capabilities, and towards the world as a whole. It is in communication with parents that the child receives information about himself, about what he is like. Think now about your relationship with your child. How satisfied are you with them? Does your child trust you? Does he listen and hear you? Does he share his experiences with you? Do you easily negotiate with him in conflict situations? These are all indicators of how close or far you are from each other. We are completely responsible for the kind of relationship we develop with our children. We ourselves teach the child to interact in a special way: to hear us or not, to trust us or to hide their thoughts and feelings, to negotiate or manipulate, to talk or scream. If you feel that your relationship with your child is not going well, there is always an opportunity to improve with him contact. You can make your relationship better! This is not very difficult. I would like to dwell on the main actions on the part of parents that make them closer to their children! 1. Pay attention to your child! A child needs the attention of loved ones, just like a plant needs water. It develops it. Attention is also the basis for good relationships. What does it mean to “pay attention to the child”? This means doing with him what interests him: playing, reading, without being distracted by anything else. Only you and the child. 20-30 minutes a day is enough. Disobedience and various unwanted actions of children are quite often a way to achieve parental attention if it is not enough. Therefore, 20 minutes a day of your attention can help deal with this!2. Listen to your child! Parents talk more, explain, explain, advise, persuade, order, and very rarely listen to their children. And this leads to the fact that children stop hearing us. They simply ignore our speeches. If you want good contact with your child, you want him to not move away from you as he grows up, learn to listen to him! Stop just telling him all the time. A child will listen to you only after he feels that he has been listened to! For example, a 5-year-old boy says to his mother: “Mom, I want to build a seven-story house out of snow!” If his mother answers him: “Where did you see that did they build houses from snow? Let’s better blind the hare!” She won’t listen to him. The child will feel that he and his ideas are not interesting to her. And if the mother tells him: “Wow! Tell me more!”, the child will feel that his mother is interested in him, that he can share with her, that he can rely on her. And with what pleasure he will continue to tell! Of course, he won’t be able to build such a house, but it is very important for him that he will be listened to! Also look at how you tell your child what he needs to do. Usually parents take the simple route: “Put on a jacket, it’s cold outside!”, “Wash your hands and go to the table”, “Don’t walk through the puddles!”, “Go to sleep.” Instead, ask: “What will you wear to stay warm outside?” The child will then feel that you are communicating with him, that his opinion is important to you, that you are listening to him! In addition, by asking such questions, you develop the child, teach him responsibility and the ability to make his own decisions.3. Accept his emotions! Usually parents do not want to understand and accept the negative emotions of their children. If a child is angry, afraid or sad, we don't like it. We wish he wouldn't do this. And it is a very big mistake not to allow the child to express these emotions. Emotions are temporary, they come and go (unless, of course, they are prohibited from expressing them) and they all have the right to be. It is important for a child that we accept his emotions, because they are part of him. In addition, by accepting the child’s emotions, we help him cope with them and become aware of them. What does it mean to “accept the child’s emotions”? Let's look at an example. A child comes home from school in a bad mood and tells you: “The teacher reprimanded me, but.