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1.Elmira, you are now not only a psychologist, but also a young mother. How do you manage to combine? How has motherhood affected you as a psychologist? Yes, you manage to combine what you love, family and caring for your baby. There is enough time for everything. Although I can’t shake the feeling that 24 hours a day is not enough. With the birth of the baby, there was no extra time. And when I have several free hours a day and certain tasks, I do everything thoroughly, so time has become especially valuable. In addition, I stopped chasing after something, “running” at breakneck speed. I manage to “get excited” less and focus more on what is important. If we talk about the impact of motherhood on me personally, then I have become more responsible and obligatory. I stopped taking a lot of things too seriously. In our profession it is impossible to separate the professional from the personal and vice versa. Therefore, as I develop personally, I grow professionally. 2. Elmira, you have programs on how to get married. What does marriage mean to you? This topic is relevant to me both personally and professionally. Before going on maternity leave, I work with students and young people. It was important for them to find a partner and build a relationship, to survive a breakup if it happened. Therefore, I paid a lot of attention to these topics and immersed myself deeply in them. I have my own personal experience of marriage. I am married for the second time, I have a lot of experience in premarital relationships. And now I am systematizing my personal and professional experience, sharing it with others. From my point of view, marriage is an experience that tests people's strength. It is impossible to be married and not change. True, it happens that the person himself or his partner do not like the changes that are taking place. Then people often leave, cheat, and try to re-educate. For many people, it is now easier to get a divorce than to admit their mistakes and begin to change. A happy marriage is work, but, unfortunately, not many are ready for it. 3. What, in your opinion, is the key to a woman’s happiness in a relationship? In my opinion, a woman’s happiness depends on her efforts. The ability to be and remain a Woman. I often encourage my clients: “Be not mothers, slaves, etc. for your partners! Be Women! Many people think that being a Woman means getting a manicure, pedicure, and dressing well. All this helps to be beautiful, but this does not mean being a Woman. Being a Woman means developing sensuality and sensitivity. This helps us become more flexible in various life situations, better understand our partner and his desires. Men have different emotions and different energies. It is important for a woman to take into account her characteristics and develop them. Do not compete with a man, but complement him. 4. What are your professional plans? Currently, I am the author of the “Psychology of Relationships” project, which includes consultations, webinars, online courses and articles. For me, relationships are not just about a man and a woman. The integrity of the relationship is important to me. A couple does not live in isolation; they are influenced by children, relatives, society, etc. My immediate plans are to create a personal website and write a book. I'm also going to tackle the topic of parent-child relationships. This topic is close and relevant to me. When working with difficulties in relationships, we return to childhood experience: the daughter-father, son-mother relationships. And until we deal with childhood, it is impossible to move on. 5. What is your peculiarity (uniqueness) as a specialist? My “zest” is a fusion of life and professional experience. No matter how hard we try to help the client, if we do not have this in personal experience, then it will be difficult for us to truly understand him. For example, they say that divorce is always a negative experience. For me, this experience was positive and instructive. Another important component of my uniqueness is systematicity, a combination of different methods and directions in my work: art therapy, fairy tale therapy and trauma therapy. In most cases, the client’s problem is due to unlived psychological trauma. Having worked through it, new ones open up.