How to protect yourself from rudeness Unfortunately, there is no universal method to protect yourself from rudeness and rudeness. Situations in life are different - but they are united by the fact that a rude action, a boorish attitude often hurts, because which takes you by surprise. I mean acute rudeness - unexpected, sudden, and not chronic. The boor attacks, violating some moral and human values ​​and forces him to somehow react to such an attack. The best thing is to take a short break. This will give you the opportunity to: 1. Soberly assess the situation, how adequate is the one who is being rude (age, social class, degree of intoxication, is it one person or a group). 2. Do not be completely led by your feelings, but try to allow yourself the most advantageous reaction, to do what is not expected of you, for example: joke so that the rude person feels stupid or devalues ​​the offense. One young woman, when her grandmother literally pushed her out, saying that she wanted to take this particular seat because she was disabled, although the bus was half empty, calmly moved and, in response to the insults, asked: “Is she happy, does this make her feel better?” easier?” The best thing you can do if you are rude in an organization, be it a store or an administrative office, is to deprive the boor of anonymity, saying that you will not leave rudeness unpunished and contact a higher department. If possible, try not create situations in which you may be offended. Crowding of people and turmoil always create an aggressive emotional background; if there is no way to avoid this (get up early and arrive at the bus stop before the main stream or try to visit the desired office during off-peak hours, etc.), then it may be possible to take some steps. For example, when they might push you aside at the minibus in the morning, try to agree on a turn in advance. Often we ourselves can expose ourselves to rudeness, provoke it with our insecurity, overly gentle behavior or our increased excitability. If you can be tolerant of people and know how to create. environment of goodwill, then it is more difficult to “catch on to you.” And yet, it is best not to pay the offender in the same coin, as this can aggravate the conflict, which can get out of control. But if you notice that situations often happen to you when you are offended, rude, rude, then maybe this is a reason to think about the fact that perhaps you are not fully aware of reality, maybe there is something in your behavior that you unwittingly become a victim of brawlers, and in this case, consulting a psychologist will help you resist masochistic positions and strengthen self-esteem. Irina Chirtsova - psychoanalytic therapist, member of the Society of Psychoanalytic Therapy, section of individual psychoanalytic psychotherapy for adults (Moscow) A version of an article written by order of the information agency “Siberian News” and published on 04/06/2012. For nonresidents, it is possible to consult with the author of the article via the Internet. Skype irrina061