Interpersonal effectiveness is about how to successfully manage the relationship between you and another person. Moreover, the other person may be someone close (for example, your partner or parent/child, etc.), someone with whom you interact at a certain distance (for example, colleagues) or only in certain situations ( a cashier in a store, an elevator operator, a grandmother on a bench next to your entrance, etc.). Thus, not interacting with others is almost technically impossible because most of us live either in cities or in another populated area. Moreover, even if sometimes we want some kind of solitude because others tire us, imagining a life where there will be no people at all for some very long time (for example, several years) can generally cause anxiety, simply because people evolutionarily carry the need to create relationships with others. Moreover, in a relationship where there are at least 2 people, there are 2 sets of needs that may or may not coincide. And this can create difficulties. It turns out that relationships can both improve the quality of life and worsen. So what exactly prevents you from maintaining relationships in such a way that they do not bring suffering and do not make life constantly uncomfortable?1. You have deficits in the skills to be effective in relationships. You may have grown up in a family where adults, in general, did not communicate effectively, discuss these topics with you, or modulate your behavior. And even if you have some skills, there are some situations that can be very difficult. For example, communication with a loved one who is dying; how to apologize to a person and make amends; how to express your feelings or ask someone to meet your needs.What to do?Answer: teach interpersonal effectiveness skills.2. You don't know why you entered into this relationship and/or continue to stay in it. Even if you have the skills to be effective in various communications, it is still difficult to consider the relationship effective if you do not understand why it is in your life. And many people don’t ask this question, simply because they think that they should be, because everyone has them. It's hard to argue with this, but the motivation to be in a relationship can vary greatly. What to do? Answer: ask yourself questions, why do you need this relationship at this particular moment? What do they bring you? Do you want to live in such a way that these relationships are in your life? What in these relationships is valuable to me and what is not? What needs am I satisfying in this relationship?3. Too much emotion: For example, when you have a lot of anxiety about your relationship, you may find it difficult to ask someone for anything. Or when you have strong anger, it is difficult for you to maintain your relationships - you become judgmental and people don’t like it, they leave, although you really need them. Or, when you feel shame, which many people often do, it can be very difficult to accept kindness and support from others because you don't seem to deserve it, and it's hard to get someone to do something for yourself. What to do? Answer: Learn skills emotional regulation and awareness of emotions. Remember, emotions are not enemies, but instructors and assistants. You can suffer from the fact that they are strong, but life without emotions will completely cease to be possible and safe. Thus, it is important to be able to regulate and hear them, rather than turn them off and avoid them.4. Priority of short-term desires over long-term ones. Here we must remember that this may be a consequence of biological reasons - for example, low stress tolerance will provoke a preference in favor of achieving short-term goals. For example, if there is some kind of hitch in the relationship, something is interfering, you may prefer to quarrel, because a quarrel causes temporary relief, because if you don’t quarrel, you have to be patient, that is, demonstrate high tolerance to stress, and the strength for this No. Another variant -?