Every man has a knight inside. And if we live and build relationships correctly, then this knight is revealed. It doesn’t matter how many years you live together, this applies to both men and women, with you your spouses either flourish or become unbearable. And we shouldn’t care - we should Understand with us, a person either blossoms or loses his former attractiveness. The main reason why people begin to grow cold towards each other is ingratitude. Ingratitude is when we begin to treat our spouse as a matter of course, as an inanimate object. Only gratitude can return the secret that was lost in family life. After all, gratitude is an intimate feeling that opens our hearts towards each other. We need to learn to look at the World through the eyes of gratitude. And then we will begin to understand that our loved ones are the greatest gift to us. Not everyone in this world has such happiness. Loneliness walks the planet. If we look at our loved ones with the eyes of ingratitude, then sooner or later we develop a critical attitude (evaluation and criticism is a disease of our time, which is formed in school with grading and looking for mistakes) It’s so easy for us to criticize and we easily find faults in others, but how difficult it is to find virtues and focus on them. This is the main reason for cooling and tension in relationships. We all marry those who are worthy, loved and desired. The only question is, where does that original dignity go? It is so important to preserve and increase it! "The civilization of a person, his rationality is determined by the degree of his gratitude. Unreasonable people do not know how to thank. The mind looks at the World through the eyes of gratitude. The selfish mind looks through the eyes of consumption" (M. Targakova) Summarizing all of the above, it is clear that ingratitude, criticism and evaluation destroy relationships. And gratitude, the ability to find and focus on the merits of your chosen one or chosen one makes the relationship warm, intimate, open and desirable. And no matter how many years you live together!