If you still have a question about whether to consult a psychologist or go to psychotherapy, will it be effective for you? Then, I think this article is just what you need. Briefly, I would like to tell you how psychologists evaluate the effectiveness of psychotherapy with one or another client. First of all, we pay attention to whether the client receives new experience in psychotherapy and whether he can realize it, integrate it now or in the very near future. Can a person change his psychological defenses, for example, act in a given situation without defending himself, and in another, on the contrary, defending himself, but not in a standard way for himself, not in a familiar way, but in a new one, which is more effective at the moment. By the way, in this regard, many clients have the feeling (especially after going through a year, two, three, of therapy - a long amount of time, a long number of sessions) that their condition has worsened because they have become more vulnerable, relatively speaking, like a turtle without a shell . It hurts them, it’s difficult because they are leaving their comfort zone. Methods that were adaptive no longer work. Also, we look at how much a person has remained living in his introjects, stereotypes, whether a person can at a certain moment move away from his stereotypes. How much a person can remain in contact without interrupting it, or whether he uses other methods of interrupting contact, whether he does this consciously. We also look at the projections, how much less a person acts by inertia, endowing someone with his thoughts, experiences, and so on. For example, I think that this person is sad, so I won’t approach him. In a healthier situation - before I think that he is sad, I ask him a question - listen, can I approach you now or are you not in the mood right now? That is, a person becomes more open to the world, to people, is more in reality than in himself. Another important point is this: does a person stop immersing himself in difficult situations? There is a certain type of people who mostly carry all their experiences inside themselves. In the process of psychotherapy, clients learn to open up to other people: gradually, carefully, perhaps not to everyone, selectively, but they can do it. From what will interest you as a client or what you get from working with a psychologist. First of all, you you get a completely different quality of sensations, quality of life, quality of experiences. You will be able to enjoy life, you will learn to notice moments in life that you didn’t even notice before, and for you life will seem more multifaceted than before. If at the moment you have four facets, then later many, many facets will be revealed to you, like a diamond, you will be cut like a diamond, a new cut will appear, new perspectives and visions of life. In addition, you will learn to understand yourself, your feelings, what you need you really want what you really need or, on the contrary, don’t need. You will be able to understand your boundaries when they step on you, when you need to push such a person away, and when you need to be patient a little, because otherwise you will not be able to enter into a relationship. And of course, thanks to a more complete understanding of yourself, you will have freedom of choice. You will be able to see the situation more broadly, more multifacetedly and make the right choice accordingly. For example: now I want to stop this person, or vice versa, I am ready for him to go a little beyond my borders, but this will save our relationship, because for me this is more important. That is, you will be able to make choices consciously. Well, and of course you will have the truth, honesty with yourself. You will be able to see the world more crystalline, more clearly, you will see others and yourself more truthfully and honestly. Which will ultimately lead you to complete self-acceptance. To a state that Freud called: “Becoming your own father.” You will learn to love yourself, not to judge, not to blame, to accept yourself, sometimes to praise, to protect, and sometimes to scold, but it will not be as painful as