We often strive to please others, gain public recognition, unconsciously adapt to those around us and completely forget about ourselves. But if you depend on the opinions of others all your life, there is a high probability of remaining unhappy. In order to feel satisfaction from life, it is important to be able to be yourself - to behave in a way that is comfortable for you, to say what you think, and what others do not want to hear. So how can you shed all your masks and live life to the fullest? Accept the fact that it won’t be easy. If people are used to you agreeing with everything and acting comfortable, they will definitely not like the fact that you began to rely on your own comfort. You may lose a lot of friends, but remember - true comrades will remain with you, and people come and go! Keep a success diary. Every day, find your strengths, achievements and write them down. Let yourself feel your own importance. Do not compare yourself with others, constantly keep in mind the idea that you are a separate person, with your own beliefs, thoughts, principles, and your life path may differ from someone else’s. Set personal boundaries and learn to defend them, be able to speak "No". Only if there is a comfortable space can a person remain himself. Work with self-esteem. Perhaps your fear of “shedding your masks” is due to the fact that you are ashamed of yourself or are unsure of some of your qualities. Let go of grievances. To become free, you need to learn to forgive others and let go of the burden of regrets. Go where it is scary. Often the inability to be oneself is associated with fears: not meeting other people's expectations, entering into conflict, disappointing someone. Learn to speak openly without fear of judgment. Accept your weaknesses. The inability to express oneself is directly related to the desire for the ideal and the failure to accept one’s shortcomings. It is important to understand that people are not robots, and everyone is imperfect. Calmly acknowledge your pros and cons. Think first of all about yourself and your needs, satisfy your desires. Even if someone considers this selfish, you need to learn to put yourself first. Analyze your surroundings. Everyone knows the saying that you are your environment. That’s right, make acquaintances with positive, self-confident people and you will see how you yourself change inside. Many people hide their real selves all their lives and act to please others, but this is wrong and very often leads to apathy, disappointment and frustration, so it is very important to learn not only to express yourself, but also to appreciate and respect what is inside us, with all its shortcomings and advantages! Sincerely, your psychologist, consultant, cognitive behavioral therapist, Yulia Churina