Resentment is a feeling, and sometimes even a complex of feelings, that we acquired in childhood in response to a discrepancy between what we want and what we actually do. And its only constructive role is to signal: “Ay! You're going the wrong way, dear man. We need to do something differently. And preferably with yourself, and not with the world. Offended? Answer the questions, where did it come from and what should I do with it, with resentment?” But, unfortunately, we often forget about its constructive role. And what happens then? Imagine... In one large city there lived a beautiful, talented girl, let's call her Masha. She was an architect by training and a leader by vocation. Masha dreamed of becoming the head of the architecture and construction department. She had everything she needed for this: education, competence, sufficient work experience, high potential, varied abilities, but...Masha was offended by her boss. The boss demanded standard actions from her: work discipline, timely reports, but it seemed to Masha that they were picking on her over trifles. This resentment gave birth to sad, angry and indignant voices in Masha’s head. She could mentally replay dialogues with her boss for a long time, feel sorry for herself, thus reducing her work efficiency tenfold. And then one day Masha had the opportunity to speak at the board of directors and prove her readiness for a new position. “I hope you have prepared a presentation?” - the boss asked sternly on the eve of the performance. Masha had a lump in her throat, her legs gave way, and tears came to her eyes. The long-held resentment was ready to spill out here and now... Then she decided to turn to a psychologist. - Tatyana, what should I do? Now my legs always give way and I have a lump in my throat when I see her. And the boss will be present at the council. - If you imagine a hero or character instead of yourself, then who will it be and in what circumstances? - I asked. Masha thought about it and answered: “I introduced myself to a girl of about five or six years old.” She, in a beautiful dress, fell into a puddle and was crying. It must be clarified that in reality Masha did not have such a situation - this image was a metaphor for her childhood state at the moment of the first appearance of resentment towards her mother. - Who else do you see in the picture? - Her mother is standing nearby . She is unhappy and says that the girl is clumsy. And that now she will need to wash this dress. - How does the girl feel? - Offended. It's not fair. She didn't do it on purpose. In fact, she...Masha began to cry and took a napkin. - What is she really like? What strength does she have to rise up? – I asked after waiting for the emotion to subside. “She is strong, brave, capable, talented... She draws well.” “Does she have friends?” “Yes, she is sociable and kind,” Masha added to the list of strengths of her inner child. “ Tell me, did mom tell her about this? - Yes... it seems. With difficulty, Masha began to imagine this picture. - Yes, mom said that she was smart and creative. Thank you for the cards you gave me. But more often she demanded from her and gave instructions. - What kind of support does a girl need to get out of a puddle? - Mom can say that there is nothing wrong, that everyone falls and makes mistakes. And they have the right to do so. And that they can wash the dress together. - Can you tell this to the girl now? - Yes. Masha spoke words of support to her inner child, spoke about her powers and presented them in her body in the form of images. We rehearsed “getting up from a puddle” and once again strengthened the image of confidence in our legs. Yes, I must say that the insult was felt as a lump in the throat. It was blue in color, and with the help of technology it was replaced with light and bright gratitude. We talked, of course, with my mother, but the dialogue was already built with completely different feelings. Masha left confidently, feeling light, grateful and with a real idea of ​​​​her own worth. Her voice and posture changed. To consolidate the result, she was given the task of performing a forgiveness meditation recorded for her. Anyone can find this entry on my page! Needless to say, Maria successfully spoke at the board of directors and received)