Someone makes decisions easily. But for some, decisions are a whole ordeal. This is the agony of choice. This is the fear of making mistakes, the fear of facing failure. Therefore, a very real scenario is in which you make a decision, and then the flow of your internal doubts pushes you to abandon your decision. And plunge into a new round of painful doubts. How to reduce the degree of such doubts? Every doubt is something about an attempt to gain a feeling of internal guarantees. Essentially, something inside you is trying to find some correct solution. Following which you should definitely get what you want or need. But the problem is that in the vast majority of difficult life situations there are simply NO right decisions. For example, you need to decide to leave a relationship, move or change jobs. There are always cases that indicate that both directions of decisions ultimately turn out to be suitable. For some, a second chance in a relationship helps, for others, it helps to find a new partner. For some it’s a move, for others it’s a decision to stay in their place. Some people succeed in their career in their current place, while others begin to grow in a new job. And in conditions when both decisions can produce results, we are no longer talking about correctness, but about luck. This is something worth reminding yourself of. Saying something in the style: There are no right decisions, there is only a decision made or not made. The second important horizon. - this is your exactingness towards yourself. There is a category of people who are ready to actively criticize, scold, punish themselves for every mistake, failure or disappointment. Perfectionism, low self-esteem, and depression actively contribute to this style of response. Sometimes it's just a habit. But it's a habit that actively pushes you to tense up before every decision you make. And then, when it is important to continue to follow the decision already made. In fact, if you are used to criticizing yourself, every time you think about the decision and its consequences, you seem to be waiting for a quick punishment. You don’t want this, and therefore you begin to reconsider your decisions over and over again. The third important horizon. - this is consistency. When you often begin to doubt decisions, change your decisions over time, you also remember the intermittent mode of movement towards the goal. It’s like a novice driving a car, who, having pressed the gas, being afraid of acceleration, immediately hits the brake. What is important in this case? It is important to get used to moving towards your goal smoothly and consistently. And for this, it is important for you to regularly remind yourself that your decision has been made. And remind you of what it is. Purely mechanically. So that the brain remembers not so much the current decision (of course you remember it), but rather the fact that you are ready to follow it. And what decisions are the most difficult for you to follow? If you found the article useful or pleasant, feel free to click the “say thank you” button at the bottom right If you you have anxiety, fears, neurosis, obsessive states, depression. If you want to manage your condition on your own, then start learning specific skills to manage your condition now.