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Various methodologies, classifications, categorizations, gradations, etc. are now very popular in our society. For example, here are examples of the titles of real articles “Six ways to recognize a narcissist at first sight”, “33 signs that there is a narcissist next to you”, “7 rules for choosing a partner for life”, “7 rules for raising a happy and successful child”, “20 signs of an abusive man in a relationship”, etc. Also, many psychologists, coaches, and “infogypsies” use their own personality typologies. For example, “girl-minus”/“girl-plus”, “there are people who are “victims”, and there are “creators””, “rules of a successful person”, etc. This division into types and subtypes, rules for how to communicate with children and partners , who to beware of can cause stress and neurotic conditions. Because these articles, which means there are more and more gradations and rules, every fifth person divides people into their own “types”. The question arises: how to navigate the abundance of this information while maintaining a fresh and reasonable view of the world? Yes, of course, in psychology we encounter various typologies very often. For example, in the Karpman triangle we see a model of codependent relationships, where everyone takes on the roles of “victim,” “rescuer,” and “persecutor.” Or Carl Gustav Jung introduced the categorization of introversion and extraversion (a person is more focused on the external world or the internal) and many other examples. Whatever methodologies and criteria we consider - modern or historical, from the point of view of psychology and Gestalt therapy, they are "introjects". An introject is a belief, value or attitude that a person receives from the outside - from other people, society, parents, a partner, but accepts it as his own internal belief. For example, “boys don’t cry,” “for a woman, the most important thing is to get married successfully,” etc. Introjects can be useful or unhelpful. Useful introjects are those rules and guidelines that help us live and make life easier. For example, the same psychological introjects like the methodology of outstanding psychologists of the past: accentuations of the personality of Karl Leonhard or any other educational knowledge, as well as the important experience of past generations (for example, an ancient person was well versed in plants and knew which herbs were poisonous, he passed on this knowledge to his descendants - “such and such herbs should not be eaten.” These beliefs, based on experience, have developed into certain rules that we still use today). Those introjects that do not contribute to satisfying a person’s needs are unhelpful. Personalities do not fit (or have ceased to fit) or belong to another person (or society) and his subjective experience (in the case of the example with poisonous plants, the experience is objective, because it is the same for everyone). Usually, from childhood, parents pass on to us many unfounded introjects, more precisely, they are based only on their subjective experience. They say that “you need to cook this way and not otherwise”, “do something only this way”. For example: “it is necessary to get a higher education”, “it is necessary to get married before such and such an age”, “to have so many children”, “to get such and such a profession”, “to have so much money”, or they are taught how to behave: “ it’s bad to be offended”, “men can’t be trusted” and a million other options. Children who were raised in a very strict atmosphere of rules can, as adults, get used to listening and following the rules of others, without listening to themselves - are these rules suitable for them? So, if the mother forced the child to unquestioningly follow her orders - “you need to wash the dishes”, “you need to do your homework at this time”, “you need to clean your room”, “you need to help your mother”, “you need to be polite”, not letting the child demonstrate independence and spontaneity, then as a person grows up he will look for ready-made instructions and solutions, without thinking about why they need to be followed, whether he wants to do it and what his actual needs are. I heard an interesting example of a family “useless” belief - introject. coursein family psychotherapy. When preparing a dish, a woman used inconvenient small utensils. Her husband asked her why she didn’t take bigger dishes? The woman answered - it’s impossible, my mother always did just that. When meeting a man, he asked his mother-in-law why she takes such inconvenient dishes? She answered - that’s what my mother always did. An inquisitive man asked his wife’s grandmother why she cooks in this particular dish? What's the point? To which my grandmother replied: “We lived so poorly, I simply didn’t have another.” Do you understand? What was passed down from generation to generation, as a rule - an “immutable truth”, in fact turned out to be an adaptation - an “adaptive mechanism” of someone from the family in a situation that has long passed. It’s just that subsequent generations were not interested and did not ask questions - is there any point in doing something if it is inconvenient and why do you need to do it and do I even like it, etc. The same thing can happen when a person begins to unconditionally believe the information that comes across in his eyes. “Trying everything on for yourself” and not realizing it – is there a “sound grain” in this information? All classifications are collected into tons of information: useful, unhelpful, and sometimes even harmful. Moreover, many such classifications begin to develop into stereotypes. What is the difference between articles with embedded other people’s gross “introjects” and articles that force us to become more deeply aware of some processes? Any introject (be it family or social), as a rule, begins with the statement of what -beliefs as an “immutable truth” (“this is how it should be!”) or the word “should.” Therefore, if the article lists that in order to become an “ideal woman” or “super successful” you must... Then before you are introjected and, most likely, unhelpful, because only you can decide what kind of woman you should be or how your success will be measured. Good psychological articles, in my opinion, make you think and reflect on your own. They provide some information, explain processes, phenomena, but do not give categories and classifications. You can draw your own conclusions. If the article contains references to some methodologies and typologies, then these are the theories of respected historical figures. (You can always “Google” the names and understand whether this theory is worthy of trust). It is clear that personal classifications of “getting off Facebook” do not inspire true trust. It is also important to develop critical thinking and think about what you read: What caught your attention in this topic? Are you really interested in this? Do you think that you have some kind of psychological problem related to this topic? If you receive an affirmative answer to these questions, look through more detailed information and pay attention not to everything stated, but to what resonates most with you. Which point was most memorable? What caught your attention – with the “+” or “-” sign? As a rule, it is precisely what touches us and is associated with the information that is most needed at the moment. Calmly reflect on what you read. Try to “digest” the information received. Does what you've learned suit you? Or seems unreasonable or delusional? If you feel that you internally agree with the author, and what you read suits you, then most likely, when you “digest” it, you appropriate it to yourself and can study this topic more deeply. If you feel that what you read is still not close to you, then most likely you can forget about this article and not take it on faith. And another way is to listen to feelings and bodily signals. If you read something and feel uplifted, inspired, or goosebumps, then most likely what you are studying is right for you. Then you can think about what exactly you liked? Or while reading, you feel unpleasant, but you feel that there is something in it. Again, it’s worth thinking about - at what point did it become unpleasant? Perhaps this information is important to you, but you feel resistance to accepting it. If, when studying, you feel emptiness, boredom, yawn (if,!