WHEN I direct all my attention to how I do it, everything collapses... Friends, I think it’s important to write to you a little about super control, about omnipotent, futile attempts to take everything into your own hands and lay straws wherever possible. To those who are extremely sensitive to uncertainty and the fact that there are processes in the world that humanity cannot control, please remember that it is impossible to create a situation of absolute security. We are not Gods, and if you aspire to a quality emotional life, you will have to deal with your own anxiety and in many matters learn to be guided by the motto “whatever happens...” Why is this so? Yes, because you will pay for over-control with tension, which will poison your existence and block pleasure. People who try to plan for everything in the world are constantly tense, day or night. They are always on edge, ready to attack, to repel. The rockfall has not yet begun, and they are already running around with a shield, preparing for a heavy defense. Not always understanding that by such actions, driven by strong anxiety, like caring about the future, they poison their present, today. Let me give you a simple example. If you now begin to closely control your breathing or heartbeat, in 20 minutes you will begin to choke or provoke a heart spasm. This also means the inability to relax. As soon as a person begins to control his pleasure, it immediately runs away from him. Hence the conclusion that overcontrol is harmful, dangerous and destructive. Friends, I do not urge you to let go of the reins and hope for chance; balance is important in any business. No one can deny the benefits of control in orientation, planning, situation assessment, etc. I just want you not to become slaves to overcontrol, which leads to obsessive-compulsive manifestations, disorders that take away the joy of life and without spitting three times, knocking five times, existence is immediately darkened. In this regard, who responds, who during sexual intercourse, instead of pleasure, he thinks about whether the partner will see rough heels, without a pedicure. Don’t delay, contact professionals, as getting rid of such manifestations on your own is extremely difficult..