“That’s not the problem. so as not to grow up. but not to forget..." Happy New Year 2021 and Merry Christmas. My dear readers, I offer you an analysis of the dreams and desires of the year 2020. Maybe you'll start with the earliest ones. Or maybe you will understand. That they have long been outdated and life sets other tasks for you... and yet, let's ask ourselves whether we should forget to betray a childhood dream. And I'll start with the words that end the small book of the French writer Vanessa Rubio-Barrault The Little Prince, which talks about , what is happening to the Little Prince in our time. You see them as an epigraph to the article: “That’s not the problem. so as not to grow up. but not to forget...” I apologize to you for the dry-looking text. My computer has been replete with technical wonders lately and is pushing me to look for non-standard solutions. Today my keyboard behaved like a car in an old movie. And here I am, behind the wheel of an old vacuum cleaner, typing this text on the on-screen keyboard, sometimes bypassing commas and replacing them with periods. Thus confirming the truth that no obstacles can stop a person driven by love for business. So, this Christmas article is dedicated to the crisis . The topic is more than relevant given the situation with coronavirus. But we will primarily talk about the midlife crisis and the way out of it. In addition, it will be useful for those who are faced with a teenage crisis and any crisis of meaning. In the book by V. Rubio-Barro, the main character is not the Little Prince himself, but a girl for whom her mother has drawn up a clear life plan (I once wrote about the book and the heroine and now I’m returning again) and which she had already begun to strictly follow, until her plan was violated by the old pilot (literally destroyed the wall) on which the plan was written. The heroine, contrary to the plan of life, goes together in search of the Little Prince, impressed by the story of the Pilot, who believes that the Little Prince is alive.. She finds him on one of the planets already matured and... having forgotten both the Pilot and Rose. This planet is ruled by a Businessman who considers children useless, however, like the stars, which he put under a glass cover for energy production. He considered the production of paper clips to be his main business. ...How often in our everyday life a paper clip becomes more important than a kind word or a smile. With the help of the heroine, the Little Prince remembers both the Pilot and his Rose. And from an adult, busy with serious work (cleaning chimneys), he again turns into a little boy. Here I would like to draw a parallel with the plot of Andersen’s fairy tale about the Snow Queen, where at the end of the story the heroes grow up (Kai and Gerda), whereas in Rubio’s story Barro the prince again becomes a little boy, that is, equal to the main character. Any plot is the result of the work of the unconscious author and it contains a hint about the way out of the trauma of the crisis. The way out of narcissistic trauma lies through the growing up of the Victim, in other words, interaction with the opponent, even if it is yours The parent (what is described is true both for intrapsychic reality and for social interactions in the “manifest world”) will be healthy only from the position (role) of an Adult. If you react from a childish (sacrificial) position, then you will inevitably feel stings and resentment. In the event of an existential crisis, the way out lies through maintaining the role of the Inner Child, because the loss of the latter gives rise to insensitivity and unemotionality and, as a consequence, the loss of the meaning of life, and in its essence the loss of the joy of being - the loss of life as such. No matter what meaning we fill life with, it itself is the main meaning. Content (meaning) needs a vessel. Time passes and the moment comes to give a new form to the content. We have all the roles - victim, rescuer, pursuer and they are also child-adult-parent. If the child turns out to be a victim, then the transformation of the victim is growing up (the caterpillar turns into a butterfly), and if - parent, then his task is not to forget himself as a child. The best thing we can do is to raise ourselves by becoming a caring parent and!