Becoming part of a new family can be difficult for both the children and the stepmother or stepfather. Possible problems may be conflicts, especially between children and stepmother. This can lead to misunderstandings, tension in relationships, and even broken ties. How to resolve this conflict and help the children and stepmother feel more confident in communicating with each other. What role do communication, understanding and patience play in such situations? How to create a favorable atmosphere in a new family? Conflicts between children and stepmother in a new family can arise for various reasons, such as differences in upbringing, differences in personalities, feelings of jealousy, lack of attention and others. A stepmother or stepfather may face difficulties due to the fact that children prefer their biological mother or father, and also because the stepmother or stepfather tries to take a position that is already taken in the child’s head. Here are some recommendations for the child’s parents about this how to deal with such conflicts. 5 Tips for Birth Parents: Start with communication. Try to maintain open and honest communication with your children and the stepparent, and let them know that it is important for each of them to express their thoughts and feelings. Recognize and respect the individual differences between children and stepmother, and remember to explain your actions. Give the stepmother/stepfather the opportunity to explain their actions and behavior so that the children do not consider her/his enemy and are not afraid to be around her/him. Find ways to ensure that each family member receives enough attention and time so that no one feels neglected or forgotten. Try not to compare children with their stepmother/stepfather and do not compare the adoptive parent with the biological one, so as not to cause feelings of jealousy and instability in children. 5 recommendations for the adoptive parents themselves: Communicate openly and honestly with all family members so that you understand how they feel and what they think. Find ways to engage in common activities with children, with the whole family, because... it brings you closer together emotionally. Be patient. Your job as a stepmother/stepfather is to create a culture of tolerance and respect for each other in your new family. Help children adjust. Tell them about life in your new family and the expectations you have for each of them. Try to find compromises. Try to find ways to get out of the conflict without infringing on the needs of all family members, take steps towards each other, finding out what all parties want.