Even when a breakup becomes your salvation, it is not always easy. The end of any relationship in which you were quite close requires a restructuring of your life. Which means it takes time. Why is it so difficult to end a relationship? You will inevitably encounter at least three things that are most often unpleasant and perceived as a crisis and great stress: 1. You lose your usual identity. Identity is one of the properties of the human psyche. It expresses for him in a concentrated form how he imagines his belonging to various social and other groups. By forming a couple, you create a group, even if it consists of only two people. And when this group breaks up, you experience a crisis. Especially if there was a certain dependence on your partner or on the social status that you received next to your partner. Identity also includes all fears and social beliefs regarding our success and failure, attractiveness and unattractiveness. Which increases fear and unpleasant feelings.2. Loss of intimacy. The feeling of security and calm is a very pleasant feeling due to the production of oxytocin. It is he who encourages the desire for long-term relationships, the continuation of offspring and their feeding.3. Cancellation effect. When the hormonal cycle of serotonin and dopamine is disrupted during a breakup, the body experiences a withdrawal effect. Dopamine remains high for some time, causing anxiety due to the absence of a love object. When it becomes lower, apathy will set in, which you will want to take out with something (casual sex, psychoactive substances or alcohol), but this will not help, but will only aggravate the condition. Physical pain may also appear, because those parts of the brain that are responsible for physical sensations and pain in the heart are activated. Stress can also provoke risky behavior that is life-threatening. What will help you cope with a breakup?1. Assess the quality of the relationship - if you felt bad in this relationship, you were abused (financial, psychological or physical), and at the same time you still want to return to this relationship, then this may be a sign of psychological dependence on your partner. Psychological dependence should be dealt with with the support of a specialist.2. Give yourself time to suffer - trying to pretend nothing happened is not a good idea. Cry if you feel like crying, and avoid those who invalidate your emotions.3. Change of activity. New hobbies and active pastime. It is important that these are activities that you did not do in your relationship with your ex-partner. A surge of positive emotions, sports and new communication will not only distract you, but will give you the opportunity to psychologically nourish yourself. 4. Surround yourself with what you love - loved ones, friends, self-care - write a list of everything that can please you even a little.5. A change of scenery. If long-distance travel is not yet available to you, take a walk to new places, buy something new for the interior or make a rearrangement.6. Communication support. It's okay to accept support from friends and family. The main thing to remember is that they may also become tired of your emotional experiences.7. Reaching the bottom - you will feel it, as if your condition will not get worse, and this situation will end, if it has not already ended. And this will become a support for pushing off and floating up.8. Self-reliance - the realization that other people can come and go from your life raises many questions that have not been resolved since childhood, which is why it feels so painful. But when you can accept it, it will become much easier and more confident for you. 9. Refuse to blame yourself or your partner. Two people are responsible for the relationship and responsibility belongs to two or even more people in this story, albeit to varying degrees. If there is rage and anger, then find a constructive way to live it.10. Personal goals - if you only have joint plans after breaking up, then it’s time!