Actually, it’s not scary. But if you don’t deal with this, then at 5 he will only understand a slap on the wrist, and at 15 he will scream that he didn’t ask him to give birth and will leave the house. This article is for those who believe that screaming is a bad method, but that’s how it is already it worked out and we need to figure out how to act differently. Let's start with the mistakes. Why do children stop responding to calm speech? Screaming is a clear sign of mom's irritation. Therefore, let's start with the fact that this is not “the child does not respond to calm speech,” but the mother is not able to address the child from a calm state. Internal irritation does not arise only in response to the child’s bad behavior. I wrote about what this irritation feeds in an article about mom’s burnout. Most often, the behavior that irritates is typical behavior that is repeated over and over again. And you raise your voice at the child according to a pattern, in the same situations. So, what you need to pay attention to: You expect from the child what he is not yet capable of doing at his age. For example, at 4-6 years old a child plays actively and does not want to “do his homework” at all. This means that you need to play “lessons” and not yell. You formulate the task incorrectly, telling him something like “go wash, get dressed, bring a comb.” The child “breaks down” and does nothing or begins to be capricious, because it is important to assign tasks one at a time. Your personal experiences when there is not enough resource for the child. This is also normal, you are a living person, and not just a mother. It is important to honestly admit this to yourself and put yourself in order. Another unpleasant thing. They get used to screaming. If you say something very important only in a raised tone, then the child will ignore everything else as unimportant, they themselves have taught it. Therefore, you need to help him change his mind: No shouting from room to room Contact in the eyes before saying what is important Call the child by name (this is important, even if there is no one at home with him except you) Instead of screaming, try lowering the intonation. These changes in volume somehow attract attention. If you are going to scream in response to a child's hysteria, this is no longer education - but an infection of emotions. Please STOP. Better put on your headphones. I will be glad to see your comments on the topic of the article. I invite mothers to consultations on parenting issues