How to choose your partner When we are looking for a partner and want to create a relationship, a lot of illusions hinder us in our search. I would like to talk about some of them. Illusion No. 1 - you need to choose a place where to look for a partner: work in a male team, go to places where a lot of men gather. If there are no men around, then you will never meet anyone. In a certain sense, this is certainly true, but not entirely. The most important thing in finding a partner is not WHERE to look, but WHOM to look for. The first thing you need to do is draw up a “portrait” of your future chosen one, then he will be found. The task of drawing up a “portrait” of a partner is not as simple as it might seem at first glance. When drawing up a “portrait”, or, in other words, a list of the desired qualities of a partner, you should be guided by the following rules: The list should be limited and contain no more than 7-8 of the most important qualities for you, that is, only those without which your communication, and even more so Living together with this person will be completely impossible. If your list is incredibly extensive and detailed, and each quality seems simply irreplaceable and necessary to you, such as: a white Mercedes, blue eyes, a mother named Rosa Lvovna, a Swiss bank account and “so that you don’t drink, don’t smoke and always give flowers ", then you will meet everything that you would like to see in your chosen one, but... separately - white Mercedes will rush past you every now and then, you will find out that your friend has a friend Rosa Lvovna, blue-eyed blondes will smile at you from all advertising posters, and you will glean a lot of information from a program you accidentally saw about Swiss banks... Therefore, the list should be limited, and I advise you to choose internal qualities, not external ones. Mercedes break down, and the money in the accounts (put there by rich daddy) runs out. But the ability to earn money, an active life position, etc. remain for a long time. Qualities should be described very clearly for any person who comes across this list. Each quality must be understood uniquely by different people. For example, if I write that my husband should be caring, then I mean that he should warn me about his plans, call me if he is late at work, and ask if I need to buy bread for the house. Another woman may mean by care that a man is able to “take care of the family,” that is, again, provide for it financially. Thus, you must clearly and clearly decipher each quality. When compiling a list, of course, you must use common sense. When you read your work, ask yourself the question: “Can such qualities be combined in one real person?” For example, so that at work he is a tough and demanding boss and knows how to defend his interests, and at home he obeys you in everything and never argues. Remember that our advantages are a continuation of our shortcomings. Qualities that initially seem attractive to us can turn into torment over long periods of communication. For example, for my man to be so handsome that when I walk with him, all the women pay attention to him and are jealous. They will, of course, pay attention and envy, but are you ready to deal with the fact that your husband is spoiled by female attention all your life? And won't your relationship then turn into constant scenes of jealousy? It often happens that those qualities of a partner that were very attractive during the “candy-bouquet” period become quite burdensome in family life (for example, if a man constantly strives to spend time in different companies, have fun and have fun). Conversely, people who at first glance may seem uninteresting or boring turn out to be reliable and faithful partners in long-term relationships. Choose those qualities that you are really ready to deal with. If you want your partner to love children and want a big family, ask yourself: “Am I ready to give birth and raise so many!