In modern conditions, you can find a large number of approaches and concepts for raising children. One of the most popular concepts today is the concept of humane education. It is focused on taking into account the needs and opinions of the child regarding various situations in his life. The main thing that the concept of humanism in education conveys is that a child is a unique individual with his own desires and interests, and the parents’ task is to listen to these desires and interests. For example, if a child does not want to learn English, then there is no need to force him. If a child shows interest in blogging, then this should be supported. A parent, according to the concept of humanism, is not an authority and a guide to follow, a personal example, but he is more like an assistant. And this approach is fundamentally wrong. I’ll explain why. In raising children, an important point is a partially authoritarian approach, when, through coercion and coercion, a child is instilled with a love of work, discipline, responsibility, responsibilities, helping loved ones, and education. It often happens that at school they may be required to read literature on vacation. The humanistic concept, if a child does not want to read during the holidays, will tell you that you need to leave the child alone. But, as you know, reading literature, reading in general, has a positive effect on the intellectual development of a child, and sometimes only through coercion does the approach to teaching reading work. I’m not saying that you need to raise a child in conditions of constant coercion and not respond to his desires at all . It's important to do this. The point is that constant indulgence of a child’s whims, his personal “I don’t want”, sooner or later will shape not a person, but a consumer. A child-consumer lives by the principle: “The whole world revolves for me and nothing else.” Often, many children, those raised as the only ones in the family, absorb such a program and subsequently live it, with difficulty changing their views. If we talk about the uniqueness and plurality of children in the family, then there are no uniform rules on how to properly raise a child. But one rule has been tested by practice - being one “child” in the family, a girl or boy can experience all the “delights” of parental love. In my opinion, the rule should be one and basic: “Respect for the people around you, hard work, discipline, responsibility , the desire to realize oneself and help others.” In modern conditions, children grow up more pampered and spoiled, since the years of their current life give them more benefits and comfort than other, earlier generations had. But this does not negate the fact, in my opinion, that a person should grow up as a creator, not a consumer. Thank you for your attention) Alexey Vasenkin, Master of Psychology, Candidate of Philosophy.