We got married and we will be happy for 100 years and die on the same day. But this does not always happen. Already in the first year of marriage, a crisis begins. If before this there was a so-called bouquet-candy period, then after a couple of months it ends. Adult life begins, ordinary life begins - home, work, worries. Before this, it seemed that the partner was ideal, and then he suddenly changed... Something begins to irritate us, we hear complaints addressed to us, quarrels, resentments, misunderstandings, disappointment appear. But the fact is that it is not he who has changed, our attitude has changed, hormones calmed down. It is important to understand all these points, because if you are aware, you are armed and it is easier to get through crises and not run away. When do crises occur in a relationship? The first occurs after 2-3 months of regular relationships. As I wrote above, it usually ends the candy-bouquet period, which is characterized by idealizing each other. The second occurs after a year and a half of living together. How to survive a crisis in a relationship Accept reality as it is, it’s good to say accept, it’s more difficult to do. What should I do? The first thing is to understand that since it exists now, it is already a reality, it is already a fact. “Tearing my hair out” is useless; it’s worth thinking about what can be changed, what doesn’t suit me and what to do about it. What thoughts, words and actions will help with this. “It’s not your fault, it’s our common problem.” It is dangerous to start blaming others. The result you have is an investment of two. So it’s up to the two of us to solve this issue. It is worth discussing and looking for a joint solution. You may not find it right away, but experiment. Learn to talk about yourself and hear others. This follows from the previous points: hear each other. Don’t interrupt, don’t strive: “I’m about to say something super important!” Listen to another, what is behind his words, what pain, what need. Remember your desires and hobbies. On this path, you should not forget about yourself and your desires. Ask yourself: “What do I want?”, listen, sincerely answer yourself and learn to convey your desires with respect to others. With respect for yourself and others. Start taking action instead of running away. But if you are offended or humiliated, then you should not be “tolerant.” What other relationship crises are there? The crisis of the first year of marriage. We have already talked about it. The crisis of three years of marriage. ...Crisis of the fifth year. ...The crisis of the seventh year of married life. What crisis are you experiencing now? Seven rules for creating harmonious relationships To avoid crises or get through them more easily, I prepared in the recording “How to become happy in marriage” Master class