“As you name the ship, so it will sail” - there is a saying. In my work I always find confirmation of this wisdom. And every time I am amazed at how a client’s new name works in the process of “Aligning Neurological Levels” (NLP) or “Renaming” (Simoron)! The most amazing level for me is “Self-identification” (Who am I?) How people literally immediately transform at this level! Just before our eyes the name changes and the person in the new role immediately changes! And immediately it is easier to build a new style of behavior that corresponds to the new name. It, of course, has yet to be consolidated. It is necessary to pass another life test in a situation that has long been working like a broken record and simply screams that changes are needed! Here in front of me is the mother of a five-year-old child, who is very concerned about the behavior of her son, who does not hear his mother at all and does not want to completely put away his toys. And she, exhausted from work, has to do everything herself. She is concerned that she cannot connect with her child. And she endlessly screams at him, trying to get her way. "And nothing has changed!" - as the saying goes. - Who are you in this situation when you behave like this? What name would you give yourself? - I ask mommy. “Fury!” comes the answer. And then surprised: “Is it really me?” How useful it is to look at yourself and your behavior from the outside more often! And a new desired behavior was found! There is already a new mother in front of me. This is already a “Goddess with a baby in her arms”! I even saw and felt a halo above her head! Oh, this divine smile, radiating maternal Love! How does this work? The child is in the arms, in the arms of his mother. And a peace treaty based on love was concluded: “Let’s quickly everyone put away their toys: I’m in the kitchen, and you’re in the bedroom! And let's go for a walk! And the sooner we do this, the sooner we can go for a walk!” But here in front of me is a couple who decided to break up because each of them does not know what to do with the scenes of jealousy that are exhausting for both of them. A psychologist for them is the last chance on the way to each other. A jealous guy, controlling his girlfriend, demanding that she call and report his every step. And if this does not happen, for some reason (sometimes even the most objective: “the phone died”), then in response - self-deprecation, anger, resentment, insults. The positive feeling of care from a loved one, who loves and worries about the safety of his girlfriend in such a difficult and dangerous time, turns in this version into total control and complete restriction of the freedom of his partner. I looked at myself from the outside: “Who am I in this situation, with such behavior? Unjust scoundrel! And his girlfriend, as soon as she hears tension on the other end of the line, resentment and the phone being hung up in anger, immediately turns on defensive behavior and indifference to the guy’s feelings. It’s easier for her, it doesn’t hurt so much! Not only does she not look for where to charge her phone or try to call from another phone. Fearing a scandal and falling out, he aggravates everything even more, leading to a breakup. Because he’s not going home to spend the night, but with friends he knows, putting off the showdown with his boyfriend more and more. "Who am I? Selfish and insensitive! - this is the verdict the girl makes for herself. - Do you like this behavior of yours? And do you like these names of yours? - I ask everyone. We choose new behavior and new names: “Loving and Beloved”, “Loving and Beloved”, “Love and Trust”, “Love and Forgiveness”. And now, in a happy, irresistible future, a common goal-mission appears: HOME, LIGHT, COMFORT, CHILDREN. How I love such magical transformations of clients! And how I love my job for this! I love it when a new family is born in my office! And such light shines from the new Love that has arisen, based on mutual Trust! I love it when people in my office decide, having forgiven each other’s offenses, to start over with a new leaf! And then they make a marriage proposal, building their happy and.