The motives of the people around us are not always clear to us. Because of this, great difficulties arise in relationships. Everyone does what is comfortable and familiar to them. Sometimes we just don’t need to understand this, since everyone has free will and the right to speak, think, act as they want. But the question here is: do you like the actions of another person and are you ready to tolerate them? At the same time, most people want to understand the motives of the people who are around them. It is impossible to change a person... getting into his head and finding out what is there and how is also a difficult task. Of course, it is possible to avoid a conflict situation (or at least transform it into a more constructive form) and not tolerate unworthy behavior if you learn to talk to each other. When people don’t talk to each other, without trying to find out what’s wrong (being offended out of habit), they begin to think for the person, what he thought at that moment or what he feels... they begin to look for excuses for him and his actions, and constantly scroll through dialogue that did not take place in the head. Thus, a person creates illusions of what is happening for himself, as they say, he “winds up himself” and turns everything into catastrophic thoughts... There is no need to think for another person, it’s the same as deciding for him... and we do not have the right to decide for others ... We will never know what is going on in a person’s head if we don’t ask him about it. Speech is given to us so that we can communicate with each other, exchanging information. How we feel towards others is also important information that needs to be shared in order to be better understood and in order to build adequate relationships. It is especially important to speak in cases where you do not like something, that is, when behavior towards you that is unworthy (unacceptable) for you is shown. Of course, in most cases, it is difficult for people to talk about what they are not happy with because of fear and self-doubt... that they will not understand, they will be abandoned, insulted, or they will offend someone. Of course, when talking about what you don’t like, you need to talk only about your feelings, without making claims or insulting the self-esteem of another person. Fear and uncertainty force you to go against yourself. But ask yourself, how important is your well-being and health to you? If you don’t like the way a person behaves, you don’t need to look for excuses for him (her) or try to get into his (her) head to understand why he (she) acts (says) this way - you can just ask him (her) about it and live in peace ... You can sign up for a consultation by calling +7 962 855-01-69 Whats App, Telegram or via a private message on the website.