Critics are like horseflies that prevent a horse from plowing the ground. The horse is working, all the muscles are tense, like the strings of a double bass, and then a horsefly sits on the rump and tickles and buzzes. You need to shake your skin and wave your tail. What is he buzzing about? He hardly understands this. It’s just that he has a restless character and wants to make a statement about himself - they say, I also live on earth! You see, I can even buzz, I can buzz about everything! I’ve been reading criticism of my stories for twenty-five years, but I don’t remember a single valuable piece of advice, I haven’t heard a single piece of good advice. Only once Skabichevsky made an impression on me, he wrote that I would die drunk under the fence... A.P. Chekhov Do you have plans for the near future? Perhaps you want to do something new - it can be either big or and small action. Imagine your plans and how good you will feel after their implementation. And let's do a little experiment. Read the words below slowly and thoughtfully (add your own). Imagine they are describing you. Combine them with your weekend plan. I AM USELESS, WEAK, PATHETIC, WORTHLESS, UNATTRACTIVE, UNPLEASANT, UNWANTED, INCOMPLETE, INCOMPETENT, SCARY, STUPID/STUPID/ STUPID, NULL Self-criticism undermines any positive self-perception and drags us down to emotional rock bottom. It makes us think exclusively about what we have done or will do wrong, which is very frustrating, but it does not give any clues about what can be improved. The cultural habit of pointing out the mistakes of others or one’s own and not paying attention to the positives gives rise to the illusion of the road to perfection. People have formed a strong belief that by spurring others or themselves with criticism, they will have great motivation to perform miracles on turns. But in fact, a person falls into: SADDNESS DISAPPOINTMENT IN SELFFRUSTRATIONSADNESSSHAMESEMMASURE ANGER AT YOURSELF SUPPRESSION DESPAIR GUILT Honestly, under these feelings, have you created a lot of new, interesting, beautiful, successful, individual things? The criticism we hear or our own critical thoughts influence not only our feelings, but also our actions. We do or don't do things that are not in our best interests. It is surprising that there are practically no people who would not suffer from criticism and yet it is incredibly popular in society. Pros and cons of criticismAre there any advantages from criticism from the outside? Yes, but... Only if we paid for it with our resources (money and time), i.e. asked a specialist: “What am I doing wrong?” A teacher, a doctor, an architect, a mechanic, a mechanic, an engineer, a hairdresser, a stylist, a makeup artist, a cosmetologist, a mentor, an instructor, a financier, a lawyer, a manager... Is there a benefit to self-criticism? ?Yes, but...If it lasts up to a minute, it relates only to action, including words, it helps to come up with a solution right now. In both cases, criticism does not affect personal characteristics, external parameters, thoughts, beliefs, values, principles of a person, his aspirations, desires, dreams, hopes, lifestyle, preferences. If we are not paid for criticism, then we assert ourselves and support our Ideal Self-Image, solving our problems at someone else’s expense. If our self-criticism does not help us come up with a solution right now, then we feed low self-esteem and the state of the victim, by the way, a very manipulative role: “I’m so worthless, save me, help me! Oh, you’re not saving me like that and helping me! I knew that all peace 💩." As a result, external criticism generates internal criticism, internal criticism feeds external criticism, turning into criticism, and so on in a circle..