Resentment is an idea from childhood. The idea of ​​justice. How to learn to let go of grievances? In the case of old and deep grievances against parents, ex-spouses, partners, relatives, the basic needs for security and acceptance of you as an individual will be affected. With such requests, it is better to seek help from a specialist, i.e. To. Solving the problem of resentment from the past yourself may turn out to be too energy-consuming, painful and sometimes even worsening your general condition. The algorithm of actions that I offer you below is more suitable for everyday life. After all, it is so important to go into a new day lightly and fall asleep with a calm heart. What we do: ✔ We identify expectations. State clearly what behavior you expected from the person. Better on paper.✔ Getting rid of double standards. Answer yourself the question: “Do you yourself always behave the way you demand from others?” If your answer is no, recognize that it is illogical to expect people to behave differently. But if the answer is “yes” then…✔ Looking for a reason: For what other reason than…. could a person do that? Try to find a rational explanation for what happened. As a rule, it is always there.✔ We weigh the importance. Think about what your problem is today on the scale of the country, the world, the universe? Just imagine. The ability to look at a situation from the outside is good sobering.✔ Learn to talk about your grievances. Resentment is encased in a thought (idea) that requires expression. A suppressed emotion plunges into the subconscious, from where it will systematically remind itself of itself, each time “corroding” you from the inside. Even if you do not follow every point from the given algorithm, but try to take and work with only one of those described, you will already break the usual pattern of your thinking in situations where you feel offended. As a bonus, you will receive emotional maturation. Every time you manage to look at the situation differently, your position as an adult, capable of taking responsibility for the events of your life, will become stronger. And how do you manage to cope with grievances??