Have you thought that after all your attempts and efforts, you won't succeed? People often think this way. We expect what we should do and try to achieve goals set for us by other people, and as a result we lack self-motivation. And if you continue to do this, then in the end you can feel empty, “squeezed out,” unsatisfied and unhappy. A feeling of inferiority appears when you compare yourself, your shape, achievements, etc., with others, certain “standards”, models from the pages of glossy magazines. magazines, movie stars, theater stars, pop stars, business stars, the Internet, etc. How to get out of this situation? 1. Remember that you are individual and unique. This means that you do not need to become someone else! Each person has his own pros and cons, and this is precisely his uniqueness. If you realize that no one can be you, You will understand that comparing yourself with others is useless, in this case, you will be able to appreciate your individuality, as well as the individuality of other people, appreciate, and not criticize, their differences. Allow yourself to be yourself, appreciate your uniqueness! 2. Set your own goals. We often take public, parental, and the opinions of significant people as our own: You can’t be overweight, everyone should be slim like models.. Or, you’re not beautiful if you don’t look like famous actors and actresses.. If you don't have money and a mansion, you're a loser. But, everyone has their own success! There is no point in comparing your achievements with the achievements of other people. If you are overweight, then your goal may not be the desire to become like a model, but the desire to gain health and well-being. And you don’t have to have millions to be happy. Don't let them make decisions for you. Each person's goal is unique, just like you! 3. Your efforts do NOT equal suffering. If you are going towards a goal that does not give you pleasure, then think about whether this is your goal? If you constantly stumble upon endless obstacles so that you cannot move forward, then stop. Listen to yourself, what do you feel? Perhaps you are going towards a goal that was not set by you? Or not your own way? It’s impossible to go through life on other people’s roads, trying to achieve other people’s goals! Listen to yourself, choose yours. Manage your life, enjoy satisfying your own needs and activities. No one will live your life more fully and better than you yourself! And if you have any questions, then you can sign up for a consultation +7775-76-75-003 (Mob, Telegram, WhatsApp)© Practical psychologist Elena Potylitsyna, 2020. All rights reserved.