The next strategy for finding happiness from a scientific point of view from Sonja Lyubomirski from the book "The How of Happiness: the Scientific Approach to the Life You Want" is learning to cope with life's blows. Have you ever wondered what your usual way of coping with difficulties in life is? Typically, there are two main strategies: one is aimed at solving specific problems, and the other is aimed at dealing with emotions. Thus, some immediately begin to act in search of a solution, while others begin to work with their emotional reactions. Both strategies can be effective for different cases. For example, a strategy focused on working with emotions is very effective if a person is faced, for example, with the death of a close relative or with another loss that can only be accepted, in a word, with something that is not in the zone of our control. The emotion-oriented strategy is divided into into: behavioral and cognitive. Behavioral is when we try to abstract ourselves from negative feelings, seek support from loved ones, and do physical exercise. Cognitive strategy is a positive interpretation of events, when we explain what happened to us in terms of a plus sign, trying to find positive moments and learn the right lessons. Learn benefiting from personal trauma while trying to find some value and new understanding of a life event is certainly very difficult, but research confirms that 70 to 80% of people who have lost loved ones say they have gained great benefit from rethinking their tragic experience. In psychology, this is called "post-traumatic growth." What are the main strategies to help cope with life's blows? Social support. It is one of the most effective coping strategies (from the English word “to cope”), which has a powerful positive effect not only on the emotional, but also the physical state of a person (studies were conducted among cancer patients). Finding meaning. Research shows that those people who managed to find new meaning in the wake of tragic events experienced a less depressive state, and the consequences of post-traumatic syndrome were less pronounced a year after the tragedy. Recommendations for rethinking a traumatic event: 1. Finding meaning through writing. Write down your feelings and thoughts about the traumatic event; this will help not only to express your feelings, which in itself is a healing practice, but also to structure your thoughts about this event. Do this exercise several days in a row for at least 15 minutes.2. Talk or write about your loss. Admit that the injury has indeed caused you a lot of pain. Think about what you did during this event to cope with the consequences, and what actions you are especially grateful to yourself for. Then, think about how this loss helped you grow personally and understand something important for yourself: maybe you saw new perspectives for yourself? Perhaps you have become more compassionate? Grateful? Sensitive? Patient? Are you open to new things? Finally, think about how this event positively impacted your relationship. Maybe they have become stronger, closer, or have more support in them?3. Dispute. Working with negative thoughts and attitudes about an unpleasant event. So, a. Describe your problem. For example, "My best friend hasn't called me in 3 weeks." b. Write your negative thoughts about this, for example, “He must hate me” or “He thinks I’m boring and that makes me just terrified.” c. Write down the consequences of this problem/your thoughts. How do you feel as a result? For example, “That makes me feel very lonely and unhappy” or “I will never have normal friends.” d. Object to your negative attitude, think about other possible reasons for your friend’s behavior. For example, "Perhaps my friend was just very busy at