From the author: 1991 The illusion is that a person’s character and destiny are solely the product of his childhood upbringing and conflicts at the beginning of life. It’s as if a blank sheet of paper is born, on which everyone around them leaves their imprints and inscriptions. An involuntary feeling of soiling immediately arises: a clean sheet has been soiled - the baby was born innocent! This delusion will lose its meaning when the word “life” is replaced by the word “incarnation.” Without realizing that birth is the beginning of the next incarnation, of which there were N numbers before, it is impossible to understand the logic of the development of individual consciousness. Let's start with the fact that the woman takes upon herself the work of translating into real earthly life the plan to build a terminal for the unborn child. This plan is brought with it by the soul descending to the material level, and the woman chosen to play the role of mother provides the alien with her earthly terminal for temporary use. Thus, it turns out that a pregnant woman is obsessed with a child in the best sense of the word, and the process itself is predetermined by nature. Accepting the incoming essence, the mother also perceives all the emanations emanating from her. It is strange that doctors recognize a change in the tastes of a pregnant woman as a self-evident phenomenon; they say the child loves cranberries, but the emotional influence of the child on the mood and, especially, the behavior of the woman is out of the question. Of course, if you call a child a “fetus,” as is customary in modern medicine, then there is simply nothing to attach either feelings or human impressions to this quickly vegetating embryo - one word - embryo. True, one can only guess when and where he managed to become addicted to cranberries, which his mother now eats by the handful, but such trifles do not bother the doctors. But if we call the unborn child a person who came to the earthly world to achieve goals known to him, who has behind him the experience of previous incarnations that formed the framework of his character and the outline of his future earthly path, then the process of incarnation will no longer be perceived as flat and one-sided. Let’s leave the doctors with their “fruit” with all the vegetative parameters of development - let them grow a healthy physical body for the soul going into the world. Meanwhile, the soul is present next to the mother, singing to her in dreams and heightened feelings about its memories and aspirations. A woman does not change her personal habits, she only broadcasts emanations of a new soul that are unusual for her. The arriving soul is by no means an empty sheet, and interacts with the surrounding embodied entities on equal terms. She has yet to master the control of the human terminal under construction, and until construction is completed, she uses the possibilities of expression provided to her by her mother's ready-made terminal. Now it’s clear how he managed to become addicted to cranberries! From these positions, the further course of development looks different. What official psychology and pedagogy, together with medicine, call education, is in fact a kind of driving course before obtaining a driver's license. An applicant for a driver's license, of course, has some preferences, habits, and life experiences, and he will certainly try to use them to pass the exam as quickly as possible. This will determine the driving style, reaction speed, learning ability, law-abiding behavior of the driver, driving safety and much more. There is always an experienced instructor nearby who, if anything happens, will pull the brakes or take over the steering wheel. But not a single competent instructor will fall into the illusion that he himself is driving the car, because he knows both the value of his presence and the true measure of participation - that’s why he is an INSTRUCTOR. The instructor’s illusions can be very costly not only for his pupil.-