I decided to write this article after the topic of my Inner Child was raised in my personal therapy. During the session, I identified echoes of the integrated destructive introjects of my parents, with which, as it seemed to me, I had already “agreed.” Remembering the famous phrase of Antoine de Saint-Exupery - “We all come from childhood,” the main one automatically comes to mind the concept of “cause and effect” where we are in the present. The connection of our well-being in this world, as a consequence of the influence of the surrounding world on our Inner Child in childhood. The inner child is a part of our personality that remains with us forever for the rest of our lives. For some, this child is a joyful fidget, who loves noisy companies and cheerful communication. Some people, on the contrary, prefer communication with their Soul and deep immersion in their favorite activity. As a rule, this part of our bright personality represents our creativity, openness to the world and the ability to enjoy life here and now. The basic need of every child is to be safe, accepted, loved and cared for. And when touching on the topic of safety, you need to understand that in addition to physical safety, there is also mental and emotional. And if the safety principles were observed surrounded by caring parents, then the child feels love from them. Thus, he naturally absorbs the very model of healthy relationships. Takes over from a parent, usually from a father, the observance of personal boundaries, both on an emotional level and on a physical level, in relation to oneself and to the world. And he knows how to extrapolate this ability throughout his life’s journey. Realizes his true needs and knows how to satisfy them in an environmentally friendly way. What happens if the inner child is not protected in childhood, that is: Parents teach that “your opinion is not important”; The child is constantly compared with other children - “Here is Masha It’s better to study than you”; Physical or emotional punishment is practiced in the family; The child constantly listens to insults directed at himself, and possibly in front of others (The best way to kill your child’s self-esteem, quickly and efficiently); The child is forbidden to express his emotions - anger “girls don’t get angry”, grief - “boys don’t cry”... Such upbringing, with “good intentions”, disables the child’s psyche and opens a “start-up” for neurotic disorders. And as a result, the child carries psychological traumas of varying degrees into his future. In turn, we must remember that since the child’s psyche is very fragile, one of its defense mechanisms is triggered - repression. That is, in memory, these events, as a rule, are erased, and in the subconscious, these traumas continue to do their dark work. By what signs can you determine that your inner child needs healing: You cannot determine your emotions, basically there is either - “good” or “bad”; You are stuck in addictions that give you a false sense of temporary shelter; You suffer from low self-esteem. Perhaps there is a swing from arrogance to self-deprecation. Or there is simply a feeling that no one needs you, and there is nothing to respect you for; You are constantly faced with the problem of violating your personal boundaries and cannot understand the anger of others when you violate their boundaries; You are not aware of yourself in this world and your life similar to the feeling of being in a boat, without oars, floating along a stormy river. Etc. How can you heal your inner child and help yourself in the present? Unfortunately, or fortunately, “saving drowning people is the work of the drowning people themselves.” If you identify the sources of your traumas, you will work through them, entering a new path of your mental maturation. By moving the evolutionary development of your psyche from a “dead point”. And where you can start is to reconnect with your inner child. Give him the love, acceptance, care and protection he needs so much. AND,. .