It is an undeniable fact that the development of our sexuality is one of the most important factors in personal development. Both the complexity of the process and the qualitative changes along this path are of great interest and importance. For example, gender identity consists of three levels: 1. Basic identity - our biology and ideas about masculinity and femininity in a particular society. When a child is born, he enters society and the norms and rules dictated by it.2. Role identity is the relationship between a person’s behavior and experiences and existing gender-role stereotypes. Is the way I behave consistent with others' expectations if I am a boy.3. Personal identity is an integration of the first two. Experience of interpersonal communication, confirmation of gender identity. It is important to understand that not only interpersonal processes occur all the time, but also intrapersonal experiences, accumulation of knowledge about the body, interest in one’s body, etc. It was previously believed that a child is a tabula rasa (“blank slate”) "), and it can only be influenced from the outside for the purpose of education and personality formation. Actually this is not true. In real interaction, in a real relationship of love between parent and child, everything is much more complicated... Probably it all starts with desirability. A desired child, expected and loved. This is already the key to the successful formation of a little person. After all, being in the mother’s womb, in a safe environment, after birth the child is laid next to the mother so that he can hear the beating of the mother’s heart. And he felt that this world was relatively safe and that he could be trusted. Security is probably the second important condition for development. The stress that a person experiences at birth is enormous. And we can only imagine what it’s like, although everyone has gone through it. Further, at the first contact, the mother’s feelings and reactions to the child are very important. And here there is one feature that is read by the child unconsciously: tenderness or embarrassment. What is also included in the child’s self-system. Like some kind of meta-message. The child unconsciously reads confirmation of his gender. We can say that in these interactions between mother and child, very important things happen: the relationship between my Self and the perception of me by others. And this is one side of the coin. On the other side, intrapsychic processes occur, for example, child masturbation, as a reaction to stress, acceptance of one’s body. And here it is very important that the child, in this social mechanism of gender-role identity formation, receives from significant adults the message of his uniqueness, unlimited love and acceptance of his Self.