From the first consciously pronounced “mom”, an avalanche-like development of speech in a child begins. The level of language proficiency and developed vocabulary characterizes a cultured person. A parent’s word can inspire a child to perform great deeds and support him in a difficult situation. But, in addition to the necessary words of support and encouragement, the child must also be given feedback about his behavior and about himself. And this feedback is expressed through criticism. Criticism is very important in educating a person. It serves as a kind of lever that prevents self-confidence and one’s abilities from developing into self-confidence. The ability to correctly perceive criticism is an important quality that will be useful in the future. But the correct perception of critical comments is formed by the very form of this criticism, especially at the first stages of its application. Therefore, an important factor influencing the development and upbringing of a child is the ability of parents to correctly express criticism of their children. How to express criticism correctly, and how it affects to develop self-confidence? The first and very important rule to remember: criticism should concern behavior, actions or activities, but in no case should it extend to the child’s personality. Example: “Your behavior, when you ran and shouted, bothered me,” but in no case “you bothered me.” Incorrectly expressed criticism towards a child can violate his inner confidence that he is good and loved. A child may perceive criticism as a characteristic of himself or his parents’ attitude towards him. Second: In the case of criticism of behavior, it is necessary to indicate the time frame to which the criticism applies. So that the child does not get the impression that some of his behavior is always unacceptable, or that it always causes certain negative feelings in parents. Example: “I didn’t like it when you ran and screamed in the store” Because in the case of sports games, running and shouting is not only not forbidden, but is even necessary. Third: Your criticism should not be merely a statement of fact. Simply stating a fact expresses your attitude towards some aspect of your child's behavior. It does not contain reasons that explain your reaction or analyze the situation. When making critical comments, you should explain your position. Example: “Your behavior today at our neighbors irritated me because...” Fourth: Critical comments should contain an incentive for development and, if possible, indicate the direction of movement. Example: “You have no it turns out to do something because... if you try to correct (indicate what specifically), then you will do better.” Adhering to these rules, you will be able to express your attitude to the child’s behavior or activities; explain your attitude and make it more understandable to the child; explain that he needs to change something and indicate in which direction he can move. It should be remembered that it is important to leave the child maximum freedom in determining whether he should change something or not, and if so, how .You can agree with criticism or not. And a child, like an adult, can exercise this right. Regardless of whether the child agrees with criticism, he will learn to listen to it correctly. And in the future, in adulthood, he will be able to see even incorrectly formulated critical remarks as a help for his positive change. The ability to respond correctly to criticism is an important characteristic of a self-confident person. But this skill, as an integral part of self-confidence, should be properly nurtured. Criticize your children correctly, without insulting or humiliating their self-esteem, teach them to draw conclusions from critical comments, and they will be self-confident, independent and self-sufficient individuals.