This is a big topic on which there will be a lot more material. So let’s start to figure it out little by little. Each of us is unique, but not everyone knows about it. We are rarely taught this from childhood. We are taught to be girls and boys. “You should/shouldn’t……! You're a girl." “You are a future man! You shouldn’t/must….!” Instead of ellipses, you can insert words that you heard in childhood or continue to hear now as an independent adult. I don’t immediately answer the question in the title of the post. I want to explain the cause and effect relationship. This seems more honest. In general, listening to all these shoulds/shouldn’ts, we try to meet these standards, and if we (oh, no) do not meet at least one standard accepted by society, we worry, are driven, try to change, etc., just to be “ideal for society.” + we compare ourselves with friends/acquaintances/stars/models and get disappointed time after time. And in the end we have what we have - “I can’t accept my body”, “I hate my nose/sides/stomach/stretch marks”, “why am I so unemotional” and much more. Honestly, I’m sad when I hear something like that and even angry. That's why I write all these posts/articles and take pictures. I want to believe that this helps. Please, it's important! I always emphasize that there is no magic pill. You must realize that this is not a single day's work. We take small steps towards ourselves, towards love, towards acceptance. This is work. We must choose ourselves every day. Yes, some take a month, while others take 5 years. Because we are all different and we are in different moods and states every day. There are also external circumstances and people who influence our state and sometimes we go astray from our path. But this is normal, it’s not scary to get lost. The main thing is to remember your intention and continue to take small steps. I believe that you will succeed. And I will support you and carefully help you ❤️ Let's move on to practices. Practice 1. Look the way you like. Loving and accepting yourself means taking care of yourself and respecting yourself. Take care of your body and take care of your health. You can choose a sport that you like and from which you will get high. Wear clothes that you like. If you like your reflection in the mirror, that's +100 to your confidence. Practice 2: Allow others to be different. If you allow yourself to be yourself, you will automatically accept other people. Or at the very least, let them also be themselves and not waste energy and energy asking “how can he/she do this?” and the like. Practice 3. Become internally free. Sometimes we do something contrary to our desires and attitudes. And if we drown out this inner voice of “I” over and over again, it becomes quieter and quieter. Until the state of discomfort becomes the norm for you. Try to do what you want and not do what you don’t want. Listen to yourself and your inner desires and needs. When you need to do something, think: is this what you really want? Are you going to a meeting because you want to, or because you don’t want to offend the person? Don't be afraid of not liking or pleasing someone. Trust yourself. Practice 4. Accept your strengths and weaknesses. I am in favor of doing this practice in writing. It’s more clear this way and you can then read pleasant words about yourself at any time. - write down all your talents and strengths - remember the difficult life situations you coped with - write down the goals you were able to achieve - remember what bad habits / shortcomings / weaknesses you were able to work out. Don’t divide yourself into good/bad parts. Remember that you are unique precisely because of the set of these qualities. This is your uniqueness. Practice 5. Define your boundaries and maintain yourself. If you define your boundaries and control them, you will love and respect yourself more. This is your life and you have every right to do what you want and not do what you don’t like/want. Sometimes skill.