Children often unsettle us. They may behave in such a way that their parents clutch their heads. A child can be stubborn, argue, throw things around, and test the parents’ strength in every possible way. He may not go to school, get bad grades, or steal. And what are children's hysterics worth! All this can turn family life into hell, and deeply ruin the relationship between parents and children. Child psychology says that all these problems are just the tip of the iceberg of other, more global ones. This may be the lack of rules of behavior in the family, permissiveness, or, conversely, too strict upbringing. This could be a reaction of protest, experiencing a difficult situation - parental divorce, conflicts at school. Each case of behavior disorder must be dealt with separately. But parents often find themselves in prostration, completely not understanding what to do! Parents, even those who read psychological literature, find themselves helpless in the face of their child’s screams, demands, and tantrums. What to do when a child rolls on the floor? What techniques to use? What words should I say? Often mothers and fathers fall into a feeling of guilt (“I’m a bad parent, I can’t handle parenting”). Some parents try to resolve the conflict by force, some become offended and avoid contact with the child. Both methods can help stop bad behavior in the short term. But it will not solve, but will only worsen the problem in the future. What to do? In such cases, at parental consultations, I ask - how old do you feel when you quarrel with your child? And I often get the answer - 5 years, 7 years... This is where the main problem lies - the parent does not feel like an adult. Doesn't feel able to resolve the situation. It turns out to be a clash between two children, and each one has his own way. Whichever child is more persistent wins. Will such communication lead to solving the main problems? If a parent feels like he is 25, 30, 40 years old, takes the situation and responsibility into his own hands, then he will see in front of him not an evil enemy, but simply a child who needs help. The same is with the problems of education - only an adult can develop a clear and precise system of rules, laws, frameworks in the family, and help children follow them.