Living in illusions means building your life as if you were not living in this world, but in some completely different one. With other rules, other laws, other principles. A different attitude of people towards each other. It doesn’t matter whether these relations and rules are better than those that exist in the current reality or worse - they are different. And this is the main thing. A person, focusing on these (other) rules, in real life usually also chooses for himself a style of behavior that could be effective not here, but there. In the here and now, such behavior leads to completely different consequences. I think you will agree with me - people living in illusions are ineffective and inadequate. They rarely achieve anything meaningful for themselves. And their achievements are always somewhere in the future. The usual fate of those living in illusions is only bruises and bumps from a collision with reality (so unexpected for them). Over time, these people lose self-confidence, motivation for further actions and, in the end, become disappointed in... reality. It seems wrong and unfair to them and unworthy to have the right to exist. This deeply hurts them. If reality also seems to you exactly like this (wrong), then, it seems to me, you have two possible ways to develop a relationship with it. The first way is to try to bend the world to suit you. Start fighting with him. Make an attempt to reshape reality in a new way. Fit it to your ideas about it. And burn out with a hot iron everything that seems wrong. People who have made such a choice go to barricades and demonstrations. They pour out their anger at reality from their pages on social networks or from their personal blog. They also complain about the current state of things in conversations with fellow travelers and random interlocutors. Their lives are full of emotions. But, as a rule, not by results. The second way is to understand that it is not the universe that is inadequate, but your approach to it. Reality is what it is. And your failures are caused not by its inferiority, but by your attempts to act based on the rules invented by someone. It is the second approach, it seems to me, that helps to get rid of illusions. It is he who leads to ADULTING. Albeit quite rarely pleasant and comfortable. Growing up is a process of learning about the world and coping with it. This does not mean at all that you will have to give up your own goals and attempts to improve your own life. This does not mean that you will have to accept what is and stay with it forever. No, on the contrary, doing this, achieving these changes will become much easier. What I wish for you from the bottom of my heart. PS If you are interested in my thoughts on the psychology of men, subscribe to me (by clicking on the button below) and to my telegram channel “Men’s House of Dmitry Trefilov” - https://t.me/manrise_psy