Spoiler title Expanding spoiler text ​Spoiler title Expanding spoiler text This is the most common question asked by clients. First, stop. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, pause for a few minutes. Listen to yourself and name what you feel in your body right now? What do you feel? Maybe clenched jaws (this is a sensation in the body) mean you are angry (and this is a feeling)? Weakness in the legs (feeling) about fear (feeling)? Is tickling in the stomach (feeling) about joy/happiness (feeling)? Give a verbal definition of all sensations (you can use the previously published table of feelings for identification). Smart girls! You were able to identify your feeling. Now it needs to be lived. And to do this, we need to answer the following questions: Why are you experiencing this feeling? What happened/is happening now? What did you think? This way you will attach the emotion to the current event or thoughts. For example, I feel like I’m clenching my fists, apparently I’m angry because the child once again spilled milk and didn’t clean up after himself. Or, I feel a slight shiver in my stomach and my whole body is covered with a pleasant warmth at the sight of my beloved. Pay attention to how you breathe. Exhale and inhale completely, involving your stomach in the process. That is, breathe with your stomach, not your chest. Follow these processes for a while: breathing, your bodily sensations, feelings. And let it all be. Don't try to run away from it. You can say to yourself that “what is happening to me now is normal.” You will notice how your feelings change and how you subsequently calm down. When you feel that the moment of calm has arrived, it means you have lived your feeling correctly. You can give some image to your feeling and draw it using colored pencils or paints. In the process of drawing, you will also experience your feelings and will be able not only to see them, but also to easily live and let them go. It has been scientifically proven that creativity is the safest and most effective way of living your feelings for the human psyche. If you are having trouble identifying and processing your feelings on your own, don’t be afraid to ask for help..