Very often it is difficult to understand what kind of feelings a person or event evokes in us. On the one hand, we strive to be loved, accepted, and helped. On the other hand, We ourselves don’t quite know how it is to love, how it is to experience acceptance. Doubts arise, what if it’s fleeting. And you can also confuse one feeling with another. Even the epic confuses us: “jealous means he loves.” Let’s figure it out. An emotion is a short-term reaction of the body that lasts from two to seven, sometimes up to 15 minutes. That's all. I rode a roller coaster once, rode it twice, but the third time the ride is no longer impressive, and perhaps even tiring, like a subway or train. A feeling is a product of thought. When a person thinks about a real or virtual object or person, the thought evokes the same feeling. For example, a person says “I’ve been thinking about you for a year now and my affection for you is becoming stronger.” What is this, love? And a reverent feeling for the place in which a person spent his childhood or adolescence? Understanding yourself begins with understanding emotions, feelings and states. A low level of emotional intelligence is characteristic of people who suppress their emotions. Some emotions and feelings are at a simple sensory level. Conscience, for example, is at the level of intuitive thinking. And we invent something we can already at the level of insights. It is important to understand your emotional reactions. But that's not all the work. You also need to connect your emotional state with events and thoughts. For example, a new employee has appeared in the office, a handsome, smart, charismatic colleague. Someone may feel delighted about this, hope for an acquaintance, inner inspiration, dream of a closer acquaintance. But suddenly he passes by and strikes up a conversation with someone from another department. The emotional background changes sharply, hopes fade, thoughts swarm “ there was nothing to dream about.” In such a state, the primary help for yourself will be the following: 1. Reset emotions through the body.2. Then, work through the thoughts and attitudes that led to emotional intensity. Your psychologist Natalya Dolgova