There is a common opinion: “Love yourself, take care of yourself and your man will behave the same way” - only this is enough! Unfortunately, or fortunately, there is no and cannot be a direct correlation between these types of care, because that: Not every man can and wants to take care of a woman 1. Associated with his family scenario. If his parental family had a good relationship and dad took care of mom, then this is typical for him according to the scenario laid down in childhood.2. You have a completely different understanding of care. And for him the concern may be: “I bring money,” etc. That is, you have different values ​​in this life.3. You made a conscious and correct choice at the beginning of the relationship. They correctly assessed the qualities of a man, his abilities, and DIDN’T INVENT a prince from Shrek) So: If it happened in your life that you were a smart girl and chose correctly, all these three points work in a plus - THEN you will receive care A PRIORI, if you are not mistaken about the way to receive care from a man: The main misconceptions of a woman that interfere with caring for a woman are PHRASES in her HEAD that control her behavior: humiliatingly asking must guess, once I ask, he will get used to it and will not do anything himself in order to feel myself, the one and only, I want him to understand how to take care of me, I don’t want to force him, then it’s not interesting and other variations on this theme under the general motto: I won’t ASK, I WANT IT MYSELF! This is a monstrous female delusion based on novels, songs and movies that have nothing to do with male psychology. Men do not have the function of guessing! SO :) AGAIN! Men DO NOT have the function of guessing - A man likes to act for sure! To know for sure that this is important and useful for you, is desirable for you and he will gladly fulfill your request, and over time he will understand what EXACTLY Care and love YOU need, because we are all different!!!!! And for one woman - gifts and words of love, and for another - hugs and time spent together, and for the third, “did you remember to put on a warm scarf?” And, it should be noted that even the best man, correctly chosen and carefully formatted by you (direct and simple requests) WILL STOP caring about you if you don’t know how to thank HIM! It is very important to be able to thank a man: emotionally, verbally, physically. If you pretend that this is how it should be or you are unhappy, then you devalue the man’s actions and he wants less and less to do something for you; if you asked, he didn’t do it as perfect as you expected and you made a dissatisfied face - how will he again have the desire to do something for you? If you think it’s dry to say thank you, with the face of the snow queen it’s enough or worse. He should do it, what to thank him for is his responsibilities, I don’t demand gratitude...And similar attitudes in my head, THEN why should he continue to do something for you??? Show him that he cares about you: 1. It is very pleasant for you (the emotions of a woman’s joy and happiness inspire a man to continue doing something for you) 2. Beneficial and useful to him - BY DEEDS. That is, if he takes care of you, loves you, provides for you, and thanks to this you work less or sit at home altogether, then he gets well-mannered children, a well-kept home and a delicious dinner, as well as a happy, inspiring woman who is happy for him when he comes home. And then your man (correctly chosen at the dating stage!!! YES! YES!) will be happy to take care of you, because for a normal man THIS IS NATURAL! It’s very nice to do something for your beloved woman! And of course, you need to take care of yourself, this is an integral part. After all, an eternally tired, whining, unkempt woman does not inspire you to take care of her; rather, it evokes PITY and DISGUSTMENT... But your goal is good partnerships and shared happiness? Isn’t it? Sign up for an online consultation Course for independent work on yourself If the article was for you