One of the most destructive feelings that destroys not only the person himself, but also relationships. From time to time, a jealous person is faced with the experience of betrayal, betrayal, and inconsistency of another person’s behavior with his expectations. Moreover, if we notice, no matter how much a jealous person or a jealous person tries to prove to their partner that they are hurt and right, the partner only worsens (as it seems his behavior) An example from life: Olga is a very successful singer (from the point of view of society). Bright, beautiful, rich. BUT, already in her second relationship, she suffers greatly from her partners’ betrayals. He loves with all his might. Trying. Gives gifts, shows attention, has sex like the hottest geisha. The fear of betrayal appeared in her youth, when the first guy chose her girlfriend over her. From that moment she decided that she would become the best!! But then the betrayal repeated, although it was ideal. I entered into a relationship with the past with fear. It was as if she was constantly expecting that she would change. Yes, he was such a handsome guy, who cheated before her, of course. BUT she is now bright, ideal, rich. It's like he shouldn't! NOT her! Even in front of her, from the very beginning, he looked at other skirts, but she tried more and more to draw attention to herself. She made her breasts, dressed the way he wanted, constantly tried to be with him everywhere. She looked after me like a mother, looked into her mouth and listened to every word and checked her phone out of fear. And somehow I found on my phone that he was dating not only her, but two others at the same time. It was terrible pain and the conclusion “My feelings did not let me down. I have intuition and I am not perfect yet and I need to become EVEN BETTER.” The race to build an ideal self and new heights in my career began again. At night, she often collapsed from powerlessness, because the load was wild. True, it gave its results and there were even more concerts, which means popularity and money. True, alcohol and energy substances have become more often used to relieve tension. And then she met him. The one who is now. Bright, beautiful, sexy, everyone wants him. And so attentive. And what’s good is that he’s less rich than her, which means she’s in charge and he’s not going anywhere. True, before that he was also with one star, but this makes the victory even sweeter. He looked after me so beautifully. Did everything she dreamed of. But the fear did not go away and, just in case, she began to control him: checking her phone, looking at her email and carefully monitoring his time. Sometimes she would break down and tell him that they were all like that and she suspected him and now she found the correspondence... He is cheating. They have intense sex and he does it, even though she constantly controls him. And there began a series of apologies and reconciliations with huge bouquets, a little joy, observation and betrayal again. More hopes, conversations, surveillance and again betrayal... “And what to do,” she thinks. Probably you need to become even better for him and watch him even more, be around more often. Then maybe things will get better. After all, they are all like that, and this one is at least dear and it seems that she is already so tired that she can’t live without him. Moreover, he looked after him like that..." What is the reason for jealousy and how and should it be removed? The initial reasons are low self-esteem, cognitive distortions and repeated wrong choices of actions. Initially, our heroine does not accept himself and is in a race for perfection. He chooses the wrong men who are 100 percent likely to cheat. Then she begins to behave in such a way that she pushes them to cheat, since controlling behavior and maternal care will push almost everyone to cheat or leave. Then she confirms to herself what she believed in and again in a circle: I am worthless and I need to work on myself even more and control myself even more. All this goes away if you turn your face to yourself and learn to think and act differently. Although this is a long, but rewarding path. I invite you to the “Love Activator” channel - practices of getting into love, warm communication - https://t.me/aktivatorlubvi. I invite you to the master class “Facing yourself: the path from PAIN to LOVE”: https://liliyalevitskaya.ru/reg