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So, where to start studying the profile of a person who is outwardly attractive to you? It’s better if in the “About yourself” column it is written about yourself: who, what, what he loves, what he wants. As soon as you read this and see the answers, you can exhale and move further. Naturally, phrases like “life has shaken me, but here I am” or “I’m looking for someone who will silently supply cartridges” are immediately banned. I translate - “I have nothing to do with it, the system is crap, people are bastards (you too), peck your neighbor, shit on the lower one, only a mother is worthy of love” and others like them. Pay attention to the beautiful phrases “I value mine and yours boundaries" is an alarm bell (the person knows exactly what it is and how they are violated), maybe he is attentive to himself and in the trend of awareness, or maybe he is an abuser in search of a victim, or even a victim in search of his stalker. Let's assume that the options may be different; in order to clarify the situation in the dialogue, it is better to ask open questions: What do you think about...? How do you feel about...? People who demonstrate categorical and radical views are prone to emotional (and maybe not only) violence. Now you have found out everything, you like everything, now pay attention to the design: A large number of emoticons may indicate excessive emotionality, immaturity, changeability and the hysterical component of the personality. In defense of hysterics, I will say - they are kind, bright, different, not boring. But if you mix in unstable (low) self-esteem, childhood pain and grievances expressed in words, then you will not get a very good option for a relationship. Revenge, dominance, humiliation, emotional swing , hysterics, tears, manipulation... Do you need it? They can be recognized by the marker words: Please, don’t, must, God, please, successful, don’t write, conditions, I beg you, try, show, height from 198, prove, only blonde. Etenshen! Alarm! If you want to answer such a questionnaire, this is a wake-up call for you. You are provoked and probed for your weak points, and these are the emotional hooks: I’m good, I deserve it, so what, if I’m not 198, I’ll prove it, but I am! Yes I! It’s not worth it. Calmly sort out these gaps in self-acceptance with a psychologist and get rid of these hooks once and for all. But don't try to prove anything. This is a game where whoever accepts the rules loses. Let's step aside from the exciting ones, let's look further. We figured out that an abundance of emoticons and imperative phrases is not what we need. But humor is worthy of attention! The category is very important here: 18+ jokes; self-irony; sarcasm; black humor; unfunny humor and others - we simply choose whether it is suitable or not. A humorous connection is the basis. You have to live with it, because someday even sex will fade into the background, but jokes will remain. Humor can cement your union, or it can destroy it. Next. An honest assessment of yourself with + and -, great! But if a person in the questionnaire trampled himself into the dirt like “for that’s fair!” - this will not be a relationship, it will be a disease where you are not even a doctor, but a bedside duck. We think, we look. Here in front of us is a completely pleasant person - what should we do with him? 1. Talk honestly about your ideas for future plans (see you later?)2. Don't expect anything supernatural, be yourself. 3. Voice how you feel now (I’m worried about something, I like talking to you, now I’m a little embarrassed, etc.) What’s important is not the impression ABOUT YOU, which many strive to make, but YOUR impression of communication within yourself. And one more thing important thing! 4. Don’t rush into making a choice or making any decisions. Give yourself time to think, to step back, to not make any decision at all. This is not a show program where you have to make a decision here and now, but your life. Go on dates , compare, rejoice, study yourself and others. And from the state of “I want more,” take small steps towards each other. I am attaching examples of some questionnaires for training the skill of “the keen eye of a psychologist” 😁Take care of yourself🙏🔞I share my thoughts in my telegram channel https://t.me/sova_otkrivaiI am waiting for personal consultations.