We do not always choose what is important to us - for various reasons. But sometimes it is difficult for us to choose what is important, because this “important” remains not fully clarified. Throughout life, we are influenced by many stories, including stories “about success”, or “about someone else’s opinion”, or “about having to” . We are influenced by everyday events, routine and force majeure. Sometimes, under the influence of these stories and circumstances, we unconsciously push into the background what is really important to us. This simple exercise will help highlight this important thing for you, make it more visible._________________Important! !! This exercise CANNOT be used: in acute grief, in the presence of diagnoses related to a mental state (including current depressive episode, anxiety disorders, bipolar disorder, PTSD, etc.) in extreme conditions. In these conditions, there is a high risk that resorting to the exercise will lead to immersion into a problematic story If you are currently experiencing the above states, it would be more careful to turn to the techniques from this article. Take 3 separate sheets of paper and a pen or pencil (whatever you feel comfortable writing with). Set a timer for 2 or 3 minutes (this is more convenient than constantly get distracted and look at the clock). Within 2 - 3 minutes, write answers to one question on each sheet: On the first sheet - answers to the question “What would I do if I had 7 years to live?”❗️❗️ Try Do not look further at the technique until you complete the first stage. This is important because each subsequent question can trigger its own layer of thoughts. And if you read all the questions at once, everything can get mixed up in one heap, and in the end you will either focus only on one of the questions (which will “catch” and respond the most), or you will form some kind of average answer to all three question. There can be as many answers as you like. Whatever comes to mind. This is why it is more convenient to use a timer. If you constantly look at the clock, your thoughts will become confused. And if you don’t pay attention to the time at all, after a few minutes you will begin to think, and then the risk will increase that you will begin to write not from the author’s position, but from a position that is influenced by other stories (for example, stories about “good and right.”______________________When finish writing, set the timer again for 2 or 3 minutes. Now on the second sheet write the answers to the question “What would I do if I had 7 months to live?” Write down really the first thing that comes to mind. Do not evaluate these decisions. This is one of the reasons why so little time is given to answer each of the questions. In this exercise, it is important to catch exactly the first thing that appears to you when you see the question. There are no right or wrong options, bad or good. what, first of all, your psyche responds to. If you begin to experience some emotions in relation to the answers that appear, this can also be important. But it’s better to think about these emotions later. ________________________ Have you finished writing? And for the last time, set the timer for 2 or 3 minutes. On the third sheet, write the answers to the question “What would I do if I had 7 days to live?” If, after seeing this question, you felt strong uncontrollable anxiety, fear, other acute negative emotions, please switch to the tips in this article. This may be a sign that you are currently going through a very stressful period of your life. It may also indicate that questions related to the potential finitude of life are now very triggering and frightening for you - the psyche is not ready to come into contact with them. You may want to discuss this with your psychologist. But for now, if this is so, it is enough to do as much as you can do. Again, there are no right or wrong options here._______________What next?Now that you have written all the answers, place these sheets side by side and carefully re-read what you wrote.These answers will contain what you need»