Each of us has probably heard at least once how we were told, take responsibility for your life into your own hands. For many, this phrase hits the most painful point. You try and try, and this responsibility already seems so much that, on the contrary, you want to throw it off and run away. This happens especially often with the oldest children in the family, or with the only ones. Now you’re little, but you’re already responsible for your little brother or sister. And then for mom’s mood, for meeting dad’s expectations, for pleasing teachers, for making grandma happy. And then you grow up and realize that an adult has even more responsibility: to clients, bosses, and to children, spouses. And here’s to you on Instagram some blogger says: if you don’t like your life, then you need to take responsibility for your life into your own hands. But where can you take it? Already all your hands are occupied with responsibility, you can barely hold it so as not to spill it, not to spill it, not to inadvertently upset someone. What if everything that you hold in your hands can be let go? Yes, yes, everything, even responsibility for a child, for old parents, for work. And in free hands, take responsibility for your life. To do this, ask yourself the question: what do I want my life to be like? And make it the way you want, no matter how hard or scary it will be. For the sake of the boss, the children, we are ready to overcome difficulties: staying up at night and feeding the child, doing reports for work at night. But we are not ready to learn a new profession, start our own business, or go to a new country. Ask, what about children and parents? After all, we must take care of them. Ask yourself a question: in the picture of a happy life that I paint for myself, is there a place for children? What kind of parent do you see yourself in the happy picture? what son, daughter? what is your relationship with your parents? If in your happy picture of life there is a place for children and parents, then you should change your attitude towards responsibility for them. This is not my duty, this is my desire. I take care of them for the sake of my picture of a happy future, and not for their sake. It will immediately become easier. But if in your picture of a happy life there is absolutely no place for children and parents, then most likely you are just very tired. And you need rest. And after the rest, you can ask yourself the question again: how do I see my happy life? If you are confused and cannot decide on your desires and cannot figure out where whose responsibility is, then I will be happy to help in consultations: in person in Dubai and online around the world.* Instagram belongs to the company Meta, which is recognized as an extremist organization in Russia.