First of all, let’s determine what these types are. By European family they mean family relationships in which spouses are equally engaged in both external (earning money, educating children, organizing family vacations) and internal (everyday life, home comfort, child care, organizing sex) tasks. Accordingly, in an eastern family these tasks are strictly distributed between husband and wife. How to measure better or worse? In clinical psychotherapy, the measure is the presence of symptoms. These can be neurotic symptoms, which include emotional, physical and sexual problems and addictions (chemical and non-chemical). What type of family do people choose? More often than not, the one that seems intuitively correct to them. The one that their parents had, the one that is more fashionable among the couples around them, the one that is promoted by popular culture. Do you often think about which one is right for them, as unique individuals? Not many people think about it. And if you don’t have practical knowledge and sufficient experience in family relationships, this kind of thinking can be erroneous. What do people proceed from when they decide to start a family? Well, of course, because of mutual love, the right time (everyone is getting married, and so are we), the need for independence, pregnancy, financial and housing convenience... The fact that there is personal joint comfort and interest, the so-called compatibility, is well judged and built-in format of relationships, these moments are often forgotten or passed superficially. And it is these factors that help create long-term happy (healthy) relationships. What prevents you from paying the main attention to this? For what reason do most people take an extremely superficial approach to choosing both a person and the type of future family? For some reason, the ability to build a family in the mind is not sufficiently complex. Even in comparison with the choice of profession, even in comparison with the choice of housing... Here many are trying to understand themselves, their interests and find the optimal solution. Whether building a family is considered something unpredictable, the rules are forced into the mind - “get over it, fall in love” and “patience and work will grind everything down.” However, many moments are quite predictable. If a family plans to have children, then during this period up to 3-5 years the family will one way or another be eastern. Is this possible in their specific reality and in their worldview? If the relationship was initially based on mutual sexual love, what basis will the relationship have when this passion subsides after a few months? And it will subside...If the professional and social level allows one of the spouses to earn many times more than the other, how will this hinder/help their harmony? Here everything will again depend on the type of family that is acceptable to both. There is so much freedom in the steps of building family relationships that it can be compared to the freedom of moves on a chessboard, when you only know how the pieces move. At the same time, if you also know about the main tasks at the beginning of the game (capture the center, develop the pieces - give them the opportunity to move to more squares and castling - hide the king), then the chances of winning increase many times over. And in building a family, we can talk about rules Which will depend on expectations and goals, on economic conditions and the experience of parents and grandparents in family matters, on social trends. Summary. At the initial stage of the relationship (if there is sympathy, long before the fulfillment of individual marital roles - the roles of mistress-master and the roles of lovers) determine what life and family tasks you need to go through and what form of family will be preferable to you, taking into account your particular personalities.