Stop devaluing yourself is not an easy task, but achievable! First you need to understand and realize that you are devaluing yourself. We discussed the signs of this here in the article https://www.b17.ru/article/459958/ Why do we devalue ourselves? There can be many reasons for a bad attitude towards oneself. One of the fundamental ones, of course, comes from childhood. Our parents were raised as best they could, and so were you and me. No one spoke - not out of malice, but simply did not know what to say, about how cool it is that you simply exist. You exist. Such a beautiful, wonderful girl. You simply exist, and we - your family - are very happy. If you collected toys, how cool that you did something useful! Well done! And if you didn’t remove it, there’s nothing wrong with that. The scenario of our childhood was usually not like this. We received the following messages: Well, just think, she vacuumed/here he sits on the couch, resting, and we adults are hunched over here/you can’t relax (it’s a shame), you always have to work. Have you read your entire summer reading list? But the neighbor girl read it a week earlier. Again you are spinning in front of the mirror, it would be better if you went and washed the dishes, and so on. And so, from year to year, your own habit is formed. Habit of devaluation It is quite difficult to notice it and work with it without outside help. Because habit is second nature. You may feel that you value and love yourself. Maybe you even say self-love affirmations in front of the mirror, or make a screensaver on your phone with the text “I’m doing great.” It may work, but superficially. After all, a devaluing voice still sounds inside you. It's so familiar that you don't even notice it. It’s like the phrase “I’m never good enough” is burned into my soul. In order for new phrases to sound pure and truly truthful to you, you need to get rid of the old inscription. What to do? First, realize the depth of this problem. Don't brush it aside, but accept and acknowledge it. You may feel sad and sorry for yourself, because you will realize that you treat yourself poorly. It is important to give these feelings a place: cry, write down your feelings on paper or throw them out on paper with paints or colored pencils, sculpt them out of clay or even dance. All of these tools are great and I use them with my clients. Secondly, start praising yourself. Don’t just brush it off with the phrase “I’m great.” Be specific. I praise myself for not doing anything today and giving myself a rest. I praise myself for preparing a delicious breakfast, washing things, finishing a report at work, posting on social networks, finding time for a walk, going to bed early for two days now, and spending only an hour a day on the phone. Yes, yes, praise yourself even for what you think are very insignificant achievements. When you praise yourself for small things, your psyche itself will want to do bigger things. And the body will find energy for this. Because it’s such a cycle 🌀And if you oppress yourself inside, you devalue and consider everything you do insignificant. You definitely won’t want to do any business, big or small. What for? If you hear only reproaches inside... Are you familiar with this attitude towards yourself? How did you deal with this problem? Share your experience in the comments!💗 TELEGRAM CHANNEL with practitioners! Relax your body, sound your soul! Join us!