From the author: When a child observes that: “today I wanted to write everything myself and wrote it, but tomorrow it’s as if I didn’t even pick up a book,” then no matter how unpleasant it is for parents to realize this , however, they themselves are the sources that lead to such consequences. Next, I’ll tell you in more detail what are the reasons that a child stops wanting to learn. I’d like to cite one typical question that often worries parents of elementary school students who have not taken my classes and come to me for the first time. The topic of their questions sounds something like this: “I can’t explain What does a child need to learn?" QUESTION from A, (gender F): Hello!! I can’t explain to a child that he needs to study!! My daughter is 8 years old and studies at will... today I wanted to write it all myself and wrote it, and tomorrow it’s as if I didn’t even pick up a book... recently I’ve already started yelling and raising my hand at her... It’s very unpleasant and it all turns out suddenly, I’m so nervous that I don’t sleep at night... ANSWER from PSYCHOLOGIST Lyubov Sergeevna Belova: “Hello, A.! When a child experiences that: “today I wanted to write it all myself and wrote it down, but tomorrow it’s as if and didn’t pick up the book,” then, no matter how unpleasant it may be for parents to realize, nevertheless, they themselves are the sources that lead to such consequences. Next, I will tell you in more detail what are the reasons that a child stops wanting to study. It all starts before. schools - because the parents did not sufficiently prepare the child for school. Oh, how often parents have ideas about readiness for learning that have very little in common with what our secondary education system actually requires from the child. Take, for example, the widespread myth that a guarantee of good academic performance is the ability to read and write printed letters in preschoolers. Unfortunately, only a few understand that the desire and desire to learn is more important than knowledge of letters. Often the reason for insufficient motivation to learn is that the child did not get enough of play activities in preschool age. How does this happen? It’s very simple - for most modern kids the picture is the same: he is busy, either with TV, or with a tablet, or with a phone, or learning to read and write... he has no time for games and toys. When a child is already 8 years old, and he is still not ready to learn with desire and enthusiasm, this is a reason to contact a child psychologist. If a child is stuck in the “play period”, then the parents need to undergo counseling on this issue from a child psychologist - we are solving this issue; special methods have been developed for this. There are various reasons for insufficient motivation to learn at the age of 8, the main ones I outlined above, however, each case must be diagnosed and identified exactly how this or that tangle of issues has developed leading to insufficient motivation to learn in a student. Off the top of my head, I can recommend the following: + clearly show love for your child, praise and admire his slightest academic achievements. I wrote one sentence without blots or mistakes - “clever girl”! Praise often and to the point + let go of control over the child for a little bit, let him feel that he is being looked after much less than before + welcome the child’s initiative, in particular, let him turn from a little helper into an equal member of the family with his own household responsibilities + allow the child to learn from his mistakes, slow down your desire to help him if he has difficulties, let your help be limited to the belief that he will do it: “Come on, think for yourself, I know you can solve this problem yourself . I believe in you!" When development is normal, by the end of first grade the child should complete homework completely independently. All other options indicate that the parents are doing something wrong, or that the child has some kind of developmental disorder. Remember - the smaller the child, the more he needs care and, on the contrary, with age we let go of control over our child more and more. Good luck and!"