Separation is not a law, but a phenomenon, a process that one author observes, another denies, a third laughs at these two, a fourth generally considers it a crazy idea, a fifth calls it differently, and so on ad infinitum. Choose what is closer to you - and it will be what you call it. There are a sea of ​​authors and researchers. Among them is yours, who will be close to you in spirit or in some other way. Everything is very individual. Thus, serious research on the topic of separation was first given by the Hungarian psychiatrist Margaret Mahler in 1950 and the essence of the term was reduced to the psychological birth of a baby. Margaret Mahler wrote that if the processes of separation-individuation are disrupted in an infant in adulthood, a person may begin to have problems preserving his individuality. And that’s all. However, later on, the terms: separation, separation-individuation by other authors and researchers were changed so much that it is not even possible to guess and find out what Margaret Mahler once wrote and seriously studied. And who even remembers it when they talk about this process? When modern authors mix into the theme of separation everything that we see, and hear, and know, it turns out to be a kind of mess. If you like the term separation, and you have chosen an author who, in his own words, It convinces you that you are already looking at the world through the prism of this author’s views. Your own view, the perception of your personal life story, individual, is erased. Perhaps bookish thinking is close to families in which there are doubts, uncertainty, lack of traditions, knowledge accumulated by generations, help from experienced older family members, etc. But not every mother and not every psychologist are obliged to follow the baseless conclusions of dubious authors who guess with tea leaves about other people’s children. When they impose an idea of ​​a child without love for this particular child, without love for this particular mother of the child, with a cold mind they try to describe what needs to be described with soul and heart - why should I blindly believe this? Textbooks, monographs - this is very little, this too little, this is for students, teachers, scientists. Then, when the theorist nevertheless immerses himself more in practical experience, an understanding of complexity and individuality comes, which was not in the textbook. When the textbook becomes scarce, other people’s knowledge is devalued, only what is confirmed by personal practical and experimental means becomes valuable. So if you The topic of separation is close, so you will have this topic. How you perceive the world is how it is around you. And it turns out that everyone has their own world, depending on what a person sees, what he believes in and to whom.