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Any parent will sooner or later turn out to be bad for the child. In particular, teenagers must necessarily become disillusioned with their parents in order to find them again. But how can an adult understand that he is coping? Anna Platonova will tell you the answer. A good enough parent. In psychology there is such a thing as a “good enough parent.” This is the kind of parent who meets the needs of the child. The baby needs to eat and sleep, so the mother who provides this, despite extreme fatigue, is already doing well. If you do not intentionally harm your child, you are already a good enough parent. Let's look at the main signs of a good enough parent: 1. Unconditional acceptance is the first sign of a good parent. In other words, not “if you didn’t do this, then you’re bad!”, but “I love you, even if you didn’t do anything for it.” On the one hand, both parents and children love each other by definition. This is how nature works. On the other hand, often criticism from parents looks like the child feels bad. This has a devastating effect on the psyche.2. Respect for the child as an individual. It is important to accept the child's choice. His opinion may not be close to yours, but you need to let him know that he has no right and it is important to you.3. Well-established communication. Both between parents and with the child. Talk to each other, argue. But the main thing is to be ready to hear it. Can he talk to you about everything that is important to him? Does he talk about his feelings? And most importantly, what does the child hear in response? Here we move on to the next point.4. Talking about feelings. A very important part of parenting is working with feelings. Not devaluation, but the development of emotional and intelligence. In the future, this will help the child, firstly, understand what is happening to him. Secondly, do not be afraid of your feelings and their manifestations. Thirdly, know how to deal with them. But for this, of course, the parent himself needs to understand what is happening to him at this moment and what he himself is doing with his feelings? Does he talk about them and how?5. A parent is a person. A parent is not a service personnel who ensures and supports the development of the child, but a full-fledged person. Full text - on RBC.Pro https://pro.rbc.ru/demo/65d721c89a7947b31e54a5de