It was with this question that our session with Natalya began. The girl expected that love was about to come into her life - like in a fairy tale, but new relationships did not appear and she almost despaired of her hope that the chosen one would find her. Unfortunately, this is not an isolated case. And similar attitudes of expectation that the betrothed will appear on his own are quite common in both women and men. Where can they come from? Just remember the fairy tales. Many of them are tied to the theme of waiting for the prince/prince/beloved (Rapunzel, the Frog Princess, Beauty and the Beast, etc.) However, we often miss the fact that in the same fairy tales, happiness for the heroes does not fall from the sky, but for the sake of he/she has to undergo tests and PROVE in this way that he/she is worthy of this happiness. In our own lives, we are waiting for a miracle that will decide everything for us and give us a soul mate, with whom we will live happily ever after... That is why Instagram courses are so wildly popular, promising their clients the appearance of grooms, money, fame (and much more) immediately after completing this very course (pay only $$$). But why don't they work? Often a person does not understand why he wants to be in a relationship and why he needs it? Are they needed at the moment? This could be, for example, fear of loneliness (a glass of water, etc.) or avoidance of negative family experiences, or fear of not conforming to social norms, etc. Below I share a simple exercise that will help answer these questions: Take a sheet paper and answer the question 10 times: “Why am I waiting for love?” When the answers are ready, look what “pain” is hidden behind them? This will be the starting point for further work. Let's return to fairy tales. As I wrote above, in literature the hero must pass tests to prove that he is worthy of happiness. A person, in real life, wants everything at once and at the same time does nothing. This is why there are so many courses (yes, I’m repeating myself, because this topic resonates very much now) that promise the fulfillment of ALL desires, despite the absurdity, gain enormous popularity and are perceived as something magical. However, we must remember that if you do nothing, you will not get anything. Because of this, there is so much disappointment and resentment when the magic promised in such courses does not work and wishes are fulfilled only by the author of this product... Be careful, do not be deceived. PS on this topic I can recommend a film with Juliette Binoche and Jean Reno “Love Story” (2002) On my blog on Instagram* I analyze it in more detail. Links to my social networks, where there is a lot of useful informationFB_LINKig INSTGR_LINKTg channel "Psychology for Life" Sign up for a consultation +375 29 528-81-58* Instagram belongs to the company Meta, which is recognized as an extremist organization in Russia.