Parents have decided to get a divorce. What about children? For children, divorce is a stressful and anxious time in life. At any age, children can be shocked or angry because of mom and dad's decision to separate. They may even feel guilty, think that they are the cause of problems in the home .Divorce is never painless. It is important for parents not to ignore their children's feelings and help them cope with the shock. How can you help your children? Your patience, confidence and ability to listen to your child can minimize stress, and your children will learn to cope with difficult circumstances. With yours With your support, children can not only successfully go through this period, but even emerge with virtually no losses, feeling your love, strength and confidence in you. After all, a husband and wife get divorced, but the child’s parents remain. Adults often forget about this. And they divorce their wife and child together. What does the child want from mom and dad during a divorce? “I need both of you to be involved in my life. Please call me, write, ask a lot of questions. When you are not interested in me, I feel that I am not important to you and that you do not love me.” “Please stop fighting in front of me and work hard on your relationship so that you can get along with each other at least around me. Try to come to an agreement regarding me. When you fight over me, I think I did something bad and it makes me feel guilty." "I want to love you both and enjoy the time I spend with each of you. Please allow me to spend time with each parent. If you are jealous of time spent with the other parent, I will feel like I need to take sides and love one parent more than the other." "Please communicate directly with each other. I don't want to pass on your messages." "When talking about my other parent, please be neutral or not at all. When you say something negative, I feel like you want me to take your side." "Please remember that I want both Mom and Dad in my life. I count on you BOTH to raise me, teach me what is truly important, and help me solve my problems.” How to tell your child about divorce? Many parents intentionally delay the time to tell their children about divorce. Make your conversation a little easier by telling your children what the conversation will be about before the conversation actually occurs. If you anticipate the most difficult questions, manage your anxiety and Think through your answers to questions and your entire speech carefully. This will ensure that you are fully prepared during the conversation. How much should I tell my child about divorce? You need to choose what to tell your children. Consider carefully how the information may affect them. Be age sensitive. Young children need fewer details, while older children want to know more. Share clear information. Tell your children about changes in their lives, but don't overwhelm them with details. Be truthful. No matter how much or how little you decide to tell your children, remember to keep the information true and real. Help your children get through your divorce. Listen to them. Tell your children that you are willing to listen to their feelings and experiences and actually listen to them. Help them find words to express their feelings. It is normal for children to have difficulty expressing their feelings. You can help them by noticing their mood and talking about it. Allow them to be honest. Children may be reluctant to share their real feelings for fear of offending or upsetting you. Let them know that everything they say is good. Be aware of their feelings. Yes, you cannot solve their problems or turn feelings of sadness into joy, but the important thing is that you do not ignore their problems, but accept and understand them. Let your children know that they are not to blame. Many children believe that they are to blame for the divorce. They might sometimes argue with their parents, get bad grades, or get into trouble..