Is your attitude towards a person always formed on the basis of objective facts? Or are you, like most people, prone to being subject to other people's opinions? Very often, without having our own idea about any person or situation, we consciously or unconsciously accept any behavior model that comes up at that moment. This phenomenon is called attitudes. Attitudes follow us everywhere. Remember, one of the examples of school attitudes: when the class teacher at a general meeting of teachers and parents says that Mashenka is a great smart girl, and Vovochka is the grief of mom, dad and the whole class. After such words (and further reinforcing behavior of the class teacher), Masha receives a gold medal, and Vova, with grief, receives a basic certificate. Although everything could have been different. But life itself puts everyone in their place: Masha, in fact a “gray mouse”, incapable of anything other than a polite smile, becomes the secretary of the same Vovochka from whom someone else grew up, regardless of attitudes. It is not always the case that the opinion expressed by someone completely corresponds to reality. It is not uncommon that these same attitudes are called fate in cases where the victim receiving these attitudes believes in them. For example, Vovochka could decide that he is a grief to his mother, and in order to prove this, he could, for example, kill Mashenka to prove what a “grief” he is. This is an extreme example, of course. To protect yourself from the adverse effects of attitudes, consider the following effects and laws of communication. 1. The concept of primacy. Usually, a person’s true face is visible only ten seconds of the first communication. After this, both interlocutors play the most appropriate roles for the specific situation. To change the first impression of someone, it is necessary to have events (words, situations) that will outshine and displace the initial image in brightness. 2. Boomerang effect. People always avoid open pressure and pressure. Each of us values ​​the right to make our own choices. Therefore, excessive persuasion is often regarded as an attack on personal space. The most striking example can be election campaigning, after which people are happy to vote for the one who promised and campaigned the least. 3. The radiance of a halo. Enthusiasm and admiration for a person opens up unlimited possibilities for him over you. Positive emotions are often stronger than any objective criticism, which is simply rejected. Knowing and taking into account the influence of attitudes on the communication process as a whole, you can not only avoid their negative consequences, but also use them to your advantage. Changing attitudes and life scenarios is possible using the method of hypnotherapy.