I, as a psychologist-sexologist, quite often receive interesting and important life questions by email or WhatsApp, which I then have to work through with my clients. Sometimes I just answer verbally and it doesn’t get to work. But I do it with pleasure. Sometimes it is important for a person to simply understand what is happening in his family. It is especially difficult for men here, because their status is not supposed to cry or be hysterical. For example, the following situation. “I am 44, my wife is 40. Children are 18 and 15 years old. Yesterday I found out that she has been cheating on me for almost a year with her boss at a new job, which she got a job not long ago. Everything turned upside down inside me. I was worried for a long time and did not dare to do anything during my marriage (20. for almost years) I haven’t even looked at a stranger’s woman. While my wife doesn’t know anything that I know, I pretend that nothing happened, but it’s probably clumsy. What should I do? How can I get this boss away from my wife and is it worth it? Confusion in my head. I will write gradually..." This is such a sad story. What are we getting into here? Often relationships are doomed. This happens when the relationship is not moving anywhere. There is no development. Well, they gave birth to children and that’s it - then interest disappeared, since the task of the family seemed to be completed. The partner becomes uninteresting. She feels that she is no longer so young, but wants to be liked, turned on, excited - in general, to feel desired and loved by another man who has become important to her. The boss - he has his own interest because against the background to his mistress, he also appears as a man in demand from all sides. Probably his wife does not notice this or he is no longer interested in her opinion. How can everything be put together and the right conclusion be drawn? - It’s worth thinking carefully and assessing the situation. Find a common interest, identify it, and understand whether it’s just your desire or whether your wife has the same thoughts. They just haven’t come to the surface. This is where your commonality lies. Start building relationships with her in a new format. A specialist will help determine which one. If anything, please contact me. I invite you to an appointment as a psychologist-sexologist to solve problems of any complexity. Reception online 8-920-229-66-66